Do you believe in marriage?

Fox Queen, It depends on how the person sees marriage. Some people can be fucked up and just marry for benefits rather than loving the person genuinely. Ideally, I would consider marriage if my potential spouse wants kids. That way, it may be easier to take care of the children and my spouse. Even if my spouse doesn't want kids or can't have any, marriage still may be considered depending how I feel towards them.

I'm not against marriage but I'm not exactly too adamant about it either. If I love a person it really shouldn't matter if I'm legally tied to them or not IMHO. Plus I don't really want anyone taking advantage of me in case of a divorce if that possibility ever came around.

Eh, I dislike the whole "legal contract" part of marriage, especially cuz if something goes wrong, I'll probably get fucked by it. But the ceremonial & "till death do us part" bit, I do love.

I do. I'd love to get married at some point. It's all a matter of being taken seriously. I know, I know. It's a long ways off for me and I have to wait for someone to love a big weirdo like me in return. I will admit that getting married is one of my life goals . Sometimes, it feels like it's impossible but I keep trying anyway. No one said that it would be easy to find that special someone. I truly believe that one day, I will find that someone. I really do but it's like I said. I'd be hard to find parter/wife for a lout like me. Lmao

For me the idea of marriage is a promise of commitment as well as a declaration of trust. When you wed you're saying "I trust you with everything, and I'll never turn my back on you". Of course it goes without saying that the marriage itself will actually require both sides to work to maintain the relationship, but I think that's more of a relationship thing in general.

Yes I do believe in marriage. One it shows how mature the couple are and how much willing they want to spend the rest of there lives with each other to start a family.

I don't really see the point. I'll be honest here. Getting married is no assurance of a couple staying together, divorce is a thing and people in divorces can become very embittered and petty toward their supposed former soulmate. A lot of couples I've seen stick together not out of love but simply because getting divorced would be too inconvenient. Hell, the fact that divorce exists at all kind of nulls out the whole lifetime commitment aspect. You might as well just tell the person that you'll be there for them and then let your actions speak for you. Second, it seems like it's really just for the party. I mean think about it, you have best friends and maybe family that you love. Never plan on leaving them right? Would you put yourself in debt hosting a big party where you invite a bunch of people, get an overpaid DJ to put a playlist that you could have done on an iPhone, put on a suit/ dress that is costly as hell and you might wear one more time during renewal vows assuming you still fit it years down the line? No. You'd buy them a drink and laugh and talk and shit. That's love. No such thing as an "official best friend celebration". Now we all like parties and who doesn't like feeling special and treated as such? And I bet it makes a few people feel secure to be able to look at that ring and say "I have someone". But to me if you NEED all that to consider a relationship real then that is insecurity. Trust is being able to look that person in the eyes and know they have your back and wouldn't hurt you not because of some piece of jewelry and a contract but because you care for them and they care for you. I see and hear too many cases of one partner browbeating the other into marriage. Or someone caving in to make their partner happy when it wasn't what they really wanted to do. And we wonder why the divorce rate is so high. Now I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with getting married, If both people want to and are on board for it then by all means. And despite how cynical it may sound, yes there are legal and personal benefits to marriage. But it doesn't make you any more mature and is no guarantee of any longevity. Hell, if a couple of friends start getting all lovey dovey and end up living together, having kids and just kind of let that be their status...if it works then what's the problem? I put it to you like this. Suppose that you saw this hypothetical couple. They're happy, life is good. They aren't married .... So what? Rant over. I talk too much XD