Friends with benefits?

I personally cant do it, i find it unnecessary. But hey, if you do it, have fun. I just cant have sex to have sex,done it once and i felt like a scummy empty mess. So i wont just fuck to fuck ever again. I mean i could do it, but i wouldnt be the same and i wouldnt be as giving as i would be for a girl or guy im with exclusively.

I tried having a fwb and we ended up falling in love and dating for years. I, for some reason, can't maintain friendships with men depite trying because someone always catches feelings or wants to have sex so I can't see a fwb relationship ever working for it's intended purpose. I can't keep sex and love seperate. Although, I gotta say, I've been single for almost a year and for the first time ever, I feel like I'm going crazy for lack of sex and the importance I place on an emotional connection is rapidly deteriorating.

I had a fwb once. We got pretty close but never dated. Since then she has a fiancee who's one of my best friends but she herself has been kinda drifting away

I personally can't do it as I have to have some type of emotional connection to that person or else I'd feel rather awkward with them. Even more so due to my job potentially having me being gone for an extended period of time it's just that important to me.

@general topic With that line of reasoning eventually then you would be replaced by state of the art machines so to speak. Give it another 20/40 years. I haven't done it except once in terms of fwb. Since sexual intercourse while rewarding to the system is not my primary interest in a relationship or a intimate connection. Conversing and growing with said person are my priority if there happens to be a breakup due to making myself vulnerable and starting something more intimate than so be it. Afterwards assuming I approach it healthy I will be able to learn from it and mature as a person. I understand why others would wish to have a non committed connection though. It's difficult and probable that you will have issues in relationships via breakups, changing yourself to make them happy in a non beneficial matter for who you are such as political ideals or religion etc. @darku You are correct marriage is quite difficult and full of problems these days in the western world. Between what people deem as the correct stance in relationships on media and multiple groups advocating what they believe to be correct about marriage. EX, religious groups and other ideal centered ones such as equality groups. Many of those issues are brought on by a need though for gratification, I would suggest reading these for anybody interested at looking into both sides of friends with benefits. Lovers and Friends Understanding friends with benefits relationships and those involved San Jose University Relational Maintenance behaviors of Friends with benefits Investigating equity and value and Relational charasitics. University of Alabama Google both to find them.