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dealing with negative emotions regarding being single?

shotoguy
sorry if this is an iffy topic or whatnot, but this is the relationship advice fourm, right, heh very recently ive just been..kinda crappy regarding relationships. i get really needy for affection and just any form of romance and i end up feeling crappy and lonely. part of me knows this is just for validation, but i find myself desperately trying to fling myself onto people. love takes time, i shouldnt be doing this - but i do. its not healthy for me or the other person and i wamt to stop. is there any advice or ways i can hold myself back or...something really? im too anxious about being alone for the rest of my life and it really takes a toll on me. again, sorry if this isnt the best place for this
roseblue
Here are my suggestions: 1)Patience, it's the hardest thing to learn and deal with. 2)Learn to better communicate, for example don't overthink and learn how to adapt to another girl's personality. 3)Be a good listener, once you break the ice poke and prod certain random questions to a girl. Chances are she will ramble for a bit, and will be fond that someone is actually listening. 4)Never rush things in a relationship, it takes time. Not everyone is the same. 5)Compromise can be your best friend. Peace be upon you, and here is something for any negative emotions you might harbor. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HTEk7F0xroc
oxycore
Awh, I was the same way kinda. The guy didn't started to care less and less and I noticed so I recently just broke it off because I didn't wanna hurt myself anymore. I say, only IF you want to hold back, you should do it, don't force yourself.. It will make you feel even more crappy. But then again, I don't really know much about the relationship so I'm not sure if I can tell. :S But basically if you give more than you receive, and by that I mean, give TOO much, it might be best to just end it, eventhough it'll hurt like hell.
mazokuu
It's normal to want to be with someone. I think most people fall down that hole and feel that way on and off sometimes. Because a real relationship takes time to develop, all you can do is try and meet people and to connect with them on friendly terms. Even sometimes, just finding a mutual infatuation and flirting back and forth can be fun in the meantime.
chrissy
I went through something like this a little while ago ^^ honestly you shouldn't worry. You have plenty of time for a relationship. Patience again is key and the hardest thing to keep to. Rushing into things would only get you hurt. Coming from a single girl whose just started getting SLIGHTLY interested in having a relationship, I'd advice to stick with and focus on other things that are just as important to you ^u^ Live life a little as it's not all about having a relationship...or maybe that's just how I see things. Hang in there~ that special someone should be the one to accept your faults and accept you at your worst, the one who defends you and stays by you when you're at your lowest - that is someone worth the chase. Don't waste time on people who'll leave you in time of need. You WILL find somebody who will feel the same way. Now just isn't the time. You'll find someone soon~ <3 good things come to those who wait.
geneijin
I'd say take it slow and try to find common ground between you two. If you see how much you two have in common, i say give it your all but if there isn't much of a connection, it's best to hold back a bit and find someone who is more compatible. After all, you don't want to give it your all on someone just to be validated right?
daredevil
Eh everyones different in how they deal with that. mine is mainly a sexual release. I.E one night stand/night of porn and a flesh light but others might be you just need to satisfy your relationship cravings get a dog and cuddle the doggy or keep mind off of things, and go out and do things with friends (who arent in relationships) find new hobbies that open you up to new communities, trying new things will keep mind occuipied and options to meet new people
superfranky
Just keep your options open. I did and I found myself an amazing girl, so just keep talking to people until you find someone that you absolutely want to date.
kjdreamer2
Being single can be lonely. But it isn't all bad. You just gotta kick the negative emotions out with the positive ones. Live life and just know that something good will happen. Just takes time.
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