Do women need to be broken before they understand?

Yes yes I know the title is rather click baity, but i couldn't think of a better title. So I've recently been talking to a girl i met online(Yes i confirmed it, mainly from her being taken) but regardless we get along great and is genuinely nice and caring...albeit a little warped in her mindset(to put it simply she's a total nymph and has been that way since she was a kid.I think it's Hyper-sexuality Disorder?) Anyway we were having one of our discussion and the topic about partners came up and it involved a lot of her past. Now this largely involved her past and I know it doesn't apply to all females, at the same time...i know that the kind of woman I want will more than likely have been around the block a few times. Which is largely why this topic came up. Now she genuinely believes that generally speaking growing up girls/women have no idea what a good man is and basically have what I like to call a "Sakura Haruno" Complex..and are often attracted to assholes, and only after they have been abused or misused can they appreciate a good man. This of course can also involve sexual relations Now on one hand this could be viewed as someone learning from their mistakes...which is admirable....on the other hand it can be seen as getting stuck with someones sloppy seconds. You could even think that someone with such a wild past might not be the most trustworthy in the world. And all view points would have some sort of validity to them. Anyway,How much truth do you feel is in my friends statement? Naturally this wouldn't apply to everyone, but in general is it true?

I dunno, I mean yeah a lot of women tend to be attracted to horrible guys early on then wise up and leave decent guys with the short end of the stick and left to clean up the mess, but I've known plenty of women who were in toxic relationships that screwed them up and made them incapable of ever having a normal relationship again. They'd be drawn to abusive relationships because it's all they know and they get convinced sometimes they don't deserve anything better.

A friend of mine was in a abusive relationship for a year and a half, and the first time she told me that he was abusing her was after they had broken up a few months prior. She had called the police after a big fight and her getting pushed down the stairs etc., and she moved after that. But she kept on being in relationships with abusive guys, not as bad as the first one but still bad. I tried asking her why she kept on picking guys like that and not breaking up with them after the first 'bad experience' but she couldn't tell me. Sometimes I have the feeling that she thinks it's her 'fate' or something, or that she has no other choice.

It depends on the girl but alot of this can stem from their childhood and how they were treated by their fathers and how it affects their self-esteem. If they were around abuse growing up it can permanently warp their self esteem and views of a healthy relationship. Because of this, some girls forever gravitate to men that abuse them. Also, hypersexuality in that type of situation is often the result of early childhood sexual abuse. I've dated several girls that were sexually abused as children and seen how difficult it can be for them to have a healthy relationship. And no I disagree with your title statement. Being broken tends to keep them broken for a long time. The healing process can take many years. It doesn't matter what they "know", they are stuck in repeating patterns. Men are more logical but women are more emotional.

"Men are more logical but women are more emotional" I'm sorry...that is a load of horse shit.

"Men are more logical but women are more emotional" It's different for everyone but that's the tendency. I should know with all the emotionally unstable women I've known and dated. Sure men can be plenty emotional but the tendency is for men to suppress excess emotion that's not considered "manly". While women are more emotional based in their thought processes.

O.o I'm emotional, and logical. o.o so no. but i will say, that someone i care about deeply (who liked me) is going back to her ex boyfriend instead because hes "changed", which I mean, he wasn't exactly abusive. He just, in her words "has no chill". He makes fun of people a lot >.> not with the intentions of hurting people. But he doesn't know when to stop. Even when asked to. Among other things hes done. But she proved to me recently that he hasn't changed at all... and yet she says he has and is going back to him. I personally hope I'm wrong and he has changed. But I got the sneaking suspicion he really hasn't. And shes going to end up hurt again. And that probably upsets me more than anything.

I'm very emotional too but outwardly I'm logical and reserved. It's very hard for women to change like that. Also they see what they want or hope in men they are with instead of what's really there.