How do you turn down someone

Some guys just honestly don't know when to take a hint. If telling him straight up isn't working, tell him his constant flirting is making you uncomfortable when you already told him you're not interested in him that way and it's seriously jeopardizing your friendship. If that doesn't work, the next step is to honestly ignore him for awhile or start dating someone else. That all being said, you also can't fault him if he doesn't want to remain your friend if you do turn him down more harshly. Some guys have a tendency to stop talking to girls they've expressed feelings for and are rejected as a bit of a defense mechanism. Not all, but some some do. You do come across a bit harsh about his feelings towards you when you say things like "he's dumb enough to like me." Some people just can't help falling for someone, although that doesn't give them the right to continually pester someone about it even after being rejected too. Just being up front and expressing an interest in remaining friends is good step to try and stay that way with him, but the way he's been acting is seriously jeopardizing that.

I pretty much agree with everything that Cecil said up there ^. But I'd also like to add that you simply must understand that there may be no saving the friendship. You might have to choose between having the friendship and getting rid of his constant hints that he likes you. You are not obligated to return his feelings, and you shouldn't have to feel bad for not loving him back. But at the same time he's not obligated to completely suppress his feelings just so he can stay friends with you on your terms, and he shouldn't have to feel bad about who he has feelings for either. Please note that just because he doesn't have to continue the relationship on your terms I am NOT condoning things like stalking/being a creeper/ forcing yourself on someone.

Just be straight and honest with him, even if it means you have to be harsher than usual. It might hurt his feelings but when someone just won't take the message, their feelings deserve to be hurt because at that point it is pretty much harassment. Be clear and don't beat around the bush - say you only see him as a friend, nothing more, nothing less. If he keeps persisting then you're just going to have to ignore him and perhaps even stop being friends as hard as that might sound but it'll be necessary to hammer home the message if he's that thick (no offense). Some people are stupid in love and believe that the person they're dead set on is their one and only which a lot of people have discovered is not true in the slightest when their heart is broken and they discover someone else who will love them back unconditionally. Don't be afraid to hurt his feelings if you really, really want him to stop trying his luck, alright? All of us at some point were dumb enough to fall for the wrong person who doesn't feel the same way but there's a valuable life lesson to be earned for him here if you do things right.

In my experience people usually pick up on that on their own, but yeah lot of people can't take a hint. A good way of turning people down without anyone getting hurt is to make yourself seem less desirable to them. Point out and highlight your flaws so they loose interest on their own without things getting ugly. Of course that doesn't always work and sometimes you get people that wont loose interest so easily. It's when you get to that point that you should probably make where you stand clear and be honest with them. If they wont take a hint and wont loose interest easily then don't bother beating around the bush and just be upfront with them.

omfg I have that same problem, I've rejected this guy (nicely) a shit ton of times but he's so annoying, he even tries to manipulate me into going on dates with him, it's creepy. But I don't want to do anything major since he's in my group of friends and I don't want to make things weird for everyone else. But- I really don't like him. But do what I'm too scared to do, be harsh. Let him think what he wants, but if he's really annoying then you don't even need a friend like that. You don't need to explain yourself, just say "I'm not interested." That should be reason enough.

i'm no expert on the matter (only outright rejected 1 person in my life) but you can either: - Be direct and say you aren't interested in him that way. - Be indirect and keep him at a distance. - Be evil and friendzone him as your "best friend" if he can't take a hint, you should be more direct. But i don't like how you are responding to his affections as: "dumb enough to fall for me" that's outright insulting and arrogant sounding. becareful with that, some people don't take kindly to that attitude.

I have always gone with the 3 strikes method if it is a stranger being clear in intent. Nicely. Coldly. Hostile. Friends that suddenly want more and I am not interested get more strikes the closer a friend they are. Toxic friends are not good friends to keep. It might be too late to nail up better boundaries but you could try if you want. Lay out your terms of appropriate conduct if he wants to be your friend and nothing else or it's goodbye. If he agrees then pulls the passive-aggressive BS give him the boot. It seems harsh but if he can't take a hint and stern warnings it is not healthy for either of you to stay as-is. He needs to move on in his quest for love and friends should be a source of comfort not constant anxiety.

Burn him! Just say know and be firm about it. Show him with your eyes that you're not interested. and if he keeps at it, ignore him. Yes it will hurt him, and maybe you or your friends, but it might help him to move on... Take this hint from me. Because if someone's been rejected it's me. also... My body is ready!

Turn down for what! *crashes through the roof* ......What? Don't blame me this thread was asking for it. Somebody would do that eventually.