How to deal with size issues?

This is a sexual question, and to those of you who are uncomfortable with this, please proceed to another topic. My question to you guys out there (mainly women) is this. If you would cross paths with a sword that is too big for the sheath (so many metaphors), how do you deal with that? Is there anyway to make the sheath bigger somehow? Because this sheath is not all that playful and might just resize to its former size once played with occasionally. For those of you who aren't understanding what I am saying. How to may that vajayjay stretch to not get completely torn by the flesh flute?

How bout starting with something smaller and graduating up in size? Think of natural childbirth, while episiotomies are common, those things are made to stretch and endure. Just takes coaxing.

She's not a big fan of "pain" at all, so the sex itself rarely happens. She's not too happy about either sex toys or sexual equipment, so I donno what to do at this point. Just don't want her leaving me, but at this point we can't have sex. Her libido is too low, and when we try (we've been together for 3 years) it hurts her, and I quote "it makes me lose my virginity over and over". I wanna have casual sex without having to spend 1 hour on foreplay just to get a good 5 minutes.

Has she seen a health care provider about the pain? It's important to rule out gynecological conditions that could be causing it.

But I sincerely doubt it's because of your girth. Generally speaking, those problems are very rare and even then usually in older females due to increased chances of hormonal and/or medical issues. If it's really that issue then you're just gonna have to make sure she's aroused and lubricated enough or use lubrication. No way around that, if women aren't lubricated it's gonna hurt no matter what size you are.

And you said she already has a low libido. It's possible she doesn't like sex, period. I'm just throwing that out as a suggestion because Only you would know how responsive she actually is to the act. It could be psychological. Have you ever asked if she was raped or molested? It's something that would have crossed my mind to ask within a 3 year period if there are issues in sexual play.

I had an ex like that. It was bad enough where a finger would hurt...literally and yes, she was plenty lubed up(luckily a little tongue goes a long way.;) ). She had endometriosis. Now, I'm not sure if that was the cause as that's not how endometriosis works, but I'm guessing hormonal imbalance. Is she on any type of birth control? I mean, sure you may be big, but really? I'd ask her to ask her gyno about the issue.

Thx for all the answers! Xueli, I know being lubricated is very important. I'm gotta give myself a pat on the back and say that I'm pretty good at foreplay, and we do lots of it. We pretty much have 1 hour of foreplay (50minutes focused on her). And I'm cautious enough to work as a bomb defuser. I guess a trip to the gynocologist office would be in order. She's just very shy about sexual things, even talking about them. The last thing I wanna do is coming on too strong, and for 3 years I've been nothing but fully understanding. But a man has his needs, and it's sad that my right hand is my primary sex partner.

Well like I said, I sincerely doubt that that's the problem. And it's not necessarily a strike against guys if a lady isn't actually lubricated enough. Many medications can also cause issues with that as well. But it's important to rule out physiological complications first and so she really should go see a gynecologist or her primary care first.