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Lost the passion for building new bonds with people

animeboy
Alright I'll try and make this short and sweet as possible. Over the years I always attempted to make friends with new people be it here or real life. As mentioned in previous topics of mine, I was never really successful. Since people never seem to reciprocate, regardless of similar interests, outlooks on life etc. I have ran into people who seems interested at first then to lose interest as time goes on. After years of dealing with this, I began caring less and less of meeting new people and building bonds and becoming significantly more and more accustomed to my own company and daydreaming,gaming, and overall doing things alone. I've met some people at school(while I was attending)they seemed interesting and interested in talking to me, however the idea of building a bond with these strangers felt mentally exhausting just by thinking about it alone and trying to do so with them depleted way too much out of me, plus I get the impression they'll eventually stop caring. Point I'm making is I think I'm beginning to lose every fuck I have of meeting new people be it friends,dating etc. since I always usually have to do all the footwork and people losing interest and when someone is interested in me, I seem to just brush them off and not care even if we're like minded. I guess I just don't care anymore, it also pertains as to why I rarely post nowadays let alone make topics. I'm wondering if anyone else feels the same way, you know, not caring anymore or the thought of trying to build new bonds drains you out? Also am I wrong for not caring anymore?
wildchild_inc
I'm going to assume that you are an introvert judging from your description of how social interaction makes you exhausted.You aren't wrong for not caring anymore nor are you right. You made the decision not to care anymore based off of your experience of constant failures to build strong relationships. Relationships generally take a lot of effort to maintain. Although it may be hard to stay in touch with people, it is crucial to have some form of communication once in awhile in order maintain relationship with each other. I can understand your feeling of loneliness and neglect because one of my best friends was in similar situation. My friend was the outcast of our school. He was constantly made fun of and teased, even by me. However, me and a few other friends took him under our wing because we knew that he has social anxiety and impaired communication skills. Through 6 years of dealing with his drama and outbreaks in intense situations, I've learned that he needed us there to learn how to be a better communicator. Now he has a job, a girlfriend, and doing well in college. He showed me that the key to successful relationships is to never give up on yourself or others, eventually people learn to accept and like us for who we are. I don't know who you are, but I'd like to start by introducing myself. I'm Jeremie, it's a pleasure to meet you.
mokujin
You're not the only one, I've been feeling this way for awhile. Pretty much don't care who is there or not anymore.
arc
My trick is to just find fun things to talk about. When I text my friend the first time in a day, I don't even say hello, or I get her interest by saying she is a sexy beast. I can't stand small talk! I just jump straight into what I want to talk about. I don't think about it. I want entertainment. Other people want it too.
yaasshat
Ok. Cool story, bro. So, because you've failed to make any true friends, you're giving up on humanity? You do realize how hard it is even for the average person to make REAL friends? I've plenty of aquaintances, but very few who I'd actually consider to be my friend, but I'm not giving up on humanity. Maybe it's time to work improving yourself and your outlook. I don't care about having x amount of friends, if I have only one true friend, that's enough for me. By nature, I'm an introvert, but I more than realize how important it is to socialize. It's no one's fault if they choose not to be my friend. No one has to be your friend, it's a choice. It's almost like you're saying that your time and thoughts are more important than anyone elses and that will limit you to your own, sheltered, secluded bubble. If you want to give up, go ahead. But, don't cry when you're lonely.
animeboy
@Wildchild I'm glad I feel I'm not wrong. I felt I may have been with my cares dying out. Although I'm introverted I continuously had to step out of my comfort zone to try and work things out seeing I was told you'll need to do that. Nevertheless it's great that you introduced yourself to me, however I'm not too intent on building bonds with people far off TBH. @Kayo I presume you've had the same experience? @Arc I've evaded small talk and try and be humorous numerous times, but it failed multiple times. I always try and bring up subjects we're both interested in as well, but to no avail. @Cantthinkofabettername(I know that's you asshole)Look you fucktard I asked was it wrong if I began to stop caring, I didn't stop caring because I wanted to, it just happened. I'm well aware not many people have 50+ friends. I wasn't even insinuating that I wanted 50+ I just wanted more friends and was pleased when people showed interest in me and then suddenly they lose interest and that left me scratching my head. How often do I make topics about this sort of thing? Oh not very frequently. As per usual you misread or skimmed through the OP barge in here with your BS just to sound cool. Nevertheless I'll just ignore you and your posts from here on out and if an ignore button becomes a thing on this site, you'll be the first person on my ignore list. Ta ta.
wildchild_inc
Not forcing, but if you'd like, I offer you a chance to attempt to be friends through social media. You don't have to accept now or at all. Just know that if you need someone to talk to, I offer you my open mind and insight.
georges92
hey man, I have to agree with laughingman, true friends are indeed very rare. In your life there probablly be a lot of people with whom you'll hang out for a while before the "friendship" inevitably falls aprts. Don't let it get to you. Most people I know (including myself ) have had that kind of problem with friendship . Besides it's only natural that you won't fit in with every person you happen to hang out with. Other than that just don't let it get to you too much . Besides I'm sure you can find people with agreeable personalities in here , people who can be your friends .
yaasshat
I see someone who can't read without emotions. Also, fuck If I Care About "Looking cool" here. You do/have complained on here. I can bring up older posts. If you wish merely to insult and then message me because you've got your panties in a twist, don't complain about being a shut in. I will reiterate so as to make sure you can read. It's not good nor healthy to have the mentality of "losing every fuck" for meeting people and making friends. Get a damned therapist already and no that's not a joke.
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