do girls really care about...

I hate lumping groups of people together, but I can tell you most women do not enjoy being around someone who is consistently negative or down on themselves. Hell what person in the right state of mind does? The majority of them like to be nurtured and taken care of not vice versa. That being said - assuming you're referring to yourself - I'm sure you're making things out to be worse than they really are, I highly doubt many women care if you're gullible or not, and you're not bad looking. I know it's easier said than done, but just don't be so hard on yourself. If you don't mind me asking did something in particular bring you to ask this question?

ive been single for about 2 years and i chat with girls at work and such but they just ignore me or i ask a girl out they trade numbers i set a date a few days later and they cancel the day before its happened over 10 times the past 3 months XD i couldnt think of any thing but those three things as the reason why ya know

Do girls care? Of course they do. As shallow as it seems, appearances mean a lot, but not in the way you think. Guys that can hold themselves well, seem confident in who they are and be comfortable with their lifestyle, decisions, etc., send subliminal signals to girls. You have already proven you are not an idiot by even acknowledging that something must be going wrong if you've been single for two years. Calling yourself an idiot also sends signals, but they aren't positive. Girls have plenty of problems on their own, they don't want to date a guy who will complain just as much as they will. As far as attractiveness goes, everyone can be attractive. Attractiveness (in my humble, female opinion), is the way you carry yourself, as I said before. Take care of yourself, treat yourself right. Girls like a guy that cleans up. I'm anti-social as hell, can't really help you out there. But in the past, I've found that stepping out of your shell, as uncomfortable as it can be, can have some pretty nice results. And if people can see the more social side of you, they will put forth more effort to be around you and then more of your personality will become apparent. Gullibility can be endearing at times, but if you're a complete lost cause and every non-literal word in your direction is taking seriously...then you might need to take some lessons on irony. I hope some female feedback has helped. :)

--Mop...mop love the name lol but thanks, your female perspective is helpful --Seraphim fair enough XD one less thing to worry about is good i guess XD just alot nicer to have a choice that im single :P thanks for replying (^♥^)

Seraphim is right in many respects. Kamokyo, gotta get more confidence in there. Girls can be very picky with who they want to do. Make yourself more noticeable and charming.

I think most of those things are fixable. If you find that if you don't feel like you're being yourself while working on your confidence, I believe you can slowly fake it until it becomes more hard-wired. If you ever receive any nonsense "be yourself" advice, disregard it. It's BS post-feminist advice and likely won't get you dates. And hit the gym.

Objection! I say be your self is the best, because honestly, ask yourself; Do you want to be in a fake relationship that is probably no fun at all? Or do you want to find that someone who is compatible and wouldn't change you for a thing in this world? I believe its possible, believe me I have been single all my life, which is much longer than you, no? Again, I personally would like to find that one who I can be myself with and no objections. Hope it helped. -Puku A female and more importantly a human being.