My heart and brain are arguing (u_u)

Im in love with love but it doesn't love me. I've been in 2 very serious relationships and each time I got burned. One was my opposite and the other a replica of me. Always friends first because I don't believe spontaneous relationships. The first was my high school sweetheart. The second was my friend of 6 months and would've stayed that way until the vodka loosened my lips and I spilled my guts *rolls eyes* . Both lasted years.Neither worked. I feel like giving up. I've put my heart through the ringer. My brain is like "Dammit, get your shit together!" And my heart is like "Never again!" I want love and be loved but I've been burned twice. TWICE. If love had a face I'd take a zanpakuto to it. Anybody had this problem and have any advice?

Any relationship is going to make you vulnerable. The best you can do is try to make sure it's a person that is worth investing time in. It's never a perfect science though. You're still pretty young so I wouldn't sweat it to much at this stage. Just concentrate on making yourself happy.

^Agree with Cecil. Also, I've been fucked over way more than twice and cheated on multiple times. It feels like to me that relationships are like playing the lottery, most of the time you lose, but I keep playing hoping to find my winning number (relationship). Lol, (though I never actually play the lottery). I'm a Spartan (movie "300") of love: I never give up, I never surrender!

Yes, I'm sure everyone has broken up once or twice before. I had a gf that I dated for almost 4 years and we had a horrible break up. I've decided to stay single ever since cause I don't like that feeling. scenarios running thru your head of what you did wrong or right, what you could've done better to keep them, all that lovely stuff. HATE IT. I decided not to get into that situation again. Now, if that means I'm single for the rest of my life, then so be it. I'm not going to go out and look for love. If something comes my way then so be it. patience and time is the best thing in my opinion. Know what you want. Learn from your mistakes and past experiences. Don't rush. You're what, 21? you got all the time in the world. Relax

I've been through more than a 21 year old should and I'm horribly guarded because of those things. So when I let someone in romantically it's like the closet anyone can get to me. And I have no room for any more emotional pain. I never looked for love but it found me. And i wish sometimes that it would leave me alone.

I've had the same situation. 2 serious relationships. One of 4 years and another of 1 1/2. Best thing to do is be patient. Don't really rush in to anything serious. Make sure that someone is really that SOMEONE. If they aren't it will lead to the same situation all over again. Patience is a virtue.

I can give you some advice. First of all realize that love makes you stupid and also vulnerable. However, in order for it to work, you have to let go of past baggage. I screwed up one good relationship because I couldn't trust the person due to my last significant other cheating on me. If I would have been able to let the baggage go, I might be in a relationship now. Just try to be um, less stupid while in love. Don't be paranoid or judgmental based on previous partners, but try not to be totally blind to warning signs that things aren't right.