Alone- Vent Thread

Do you ever just feel completely alone? Like, sure, you have friends or acquaintances, maybe some family or coworkers or something, but when it comes to someone really special, you just don't think they're out there? I know I can be somewhat picky sometimes, but then again I don't think that's the issue. I've had quite a few relationships, if you can call them that, but the vast majority of them where girls who weren't serious or were just using me as someone to pass the time with. Honestly, it hurts a lot and it's mega discouraging. I'm not very picky at all when it comes to looks, that's not the issue here. What makes me feel so alone is that I'm passionate about love; it's VERY important to me. I always give 110% and there is no such thing as being too clingy. I care a lot, and to that end I am exceedingly patient and I'll do anything for someone I care about. I know I have my share of shortcomings, too, but what bothers me is this- noone out there seems to be able to match me. I've dated around the world, different age groups, different races, but NOONE seems to put in as much as I do. When they end, I usually come to find out they have been resenting me or something, that or they just plain never cared. Is it wrong to want that fairy tale ending? Do people just not want to work for it anymore? And why is it so hard t be completely honest and open? I'm rally losing my faith here. I've lost faith in religion, in humanity as a whole, and I feel like I have nothing left to cling to. I'm not sure what the purpose of this thread is, so I guess it's just a vent thread. Pull up a chair, and let it all out.

You've lost faith in religion and humanity because you've had shitty relationships? First, it sounds like you put to much emphasis on having some sort of "perfect" relationship ( what ever that is). Second, it seems that you want a relationship because that's what'll define you. Third, the common denominator here is you. If all of your relationships were so bad, who's to blame if you keep getting into those conditions? Should I blame the fire for burning me if I keep sticking my hand in it? I more than understand the want for companionship, but there's so much more of value in life than that. I'm sorry if I'm coming across as an ass, but I just call it as I see it.

@yaasshat Nahh, those are separate failures, just seemed fitting to add since the main topic is about losing faith. I do look for a perfect relationship, because my experience in relationships is that they are possible. They always are from my side. I always give every single ounce of myself and make sure I treat them well. It's my pleasure to do so and I enjoy it. No, relationships do not define me, but they are what's most important to me. Everyone has their motivations and passions, and this is mine. Nothing wrong with that. You're right, I am the common denominator and that is why I feel so alone in this. I've looked at it from every angle and taking my own feelings into account, looking at it objectively, if I /am/ the cause, then the issue is that I care too much, in which case my original thought comes to the front of my mind- why isn't an abundance of love a common trait, and why is it negative? I get that most people don't want to be smothered, but is compromise rather than disappearing in an instant too much to ask of someone who's been with you for a year+? Feel free to call it like you see it, just remember that you can't possibly see every single angle, even if you can see most. I do appreciate your insight.

Xanex and Zoloft. Try it. OOtherwise, cheer up. Nobody is going to want to be with somebody, irrespective of how you think can take care of them, if you can't take care of yourself. So mask it or do something about it. On a side note, I feel most of what yaass said here to apply with you. You may not see it about yourself, But an outside unbiased person sure would pick up on it like you were shit on gold. Take his advice to heart and think about it without coming back in some passive aggressive post about how he is wrong and you are this great person.

I cast off my need for friends years ago. Had to deal with a lot of pain, but finally reached the calm at the end of the storm. Like namaniiamani said, loneliness is a state of mind. I think in order to be a healthier human being you have to feel complete even when you are alone.

They get bored. Lurkers don't respect women, scare them off with their actions. Lots of desperate people jumping at every new female to join.