being shy in real life

Does anyone else here have trouble interacting with people you dont know? I really have this trouble when it comes to the opposite sex. I think it goes back to the my parents letting me down or not keeping their promises. I just learned to not trust people up front. I also know that knowledge is power and letting someone get so close sometimes can either be a good or bad thing. I sometimes find my self so open online rather than in reality. Dont get me wrong when people know me well in real life im a very talkative guy. What do you guys think, have any opinions, questions?

I'm very shy and actually try to walk away when I need to. Due to being shy, I always sit in the back in class, even though I have problems with vision, and record the lectures with a camera or sound recorder. If I'm in a group of friends (I actually only have two friends since the rest ignores me now) and one of my friend invites their friend which is who I don't know, I stay absolute quiet and keep a distance. I'm not used to being around because of past experiences.

i sometimes really have trouble expressing myself emotionally unless im really into it, its just so strange lol i cant explain it. like i said somehow it the whole trust issue.

I know its easier said than done considering I have horrible self-esteem issues. But what you need to do is isolate your unique attributes. Not in looks but personality, Ill give you an example. for me, I enjoy telling jokes and making people laugh, so if I feel the need to talk to someone I try and open with a joke. It makes the situation less awkward, they loosen up a bit and they have usually have a smile on their face. Break through the awkward barrier first with something like that. Then its a lot easier to open up and be accepted...sometimes, this isn't a guarentee of course. Granted I prefer to be alone because of personal issues and for the sake of others, but I use this trick on my coworkers so they will become more accepting of me. Start small, don't go after a girl you fancy first. Work up to a moment, and practice a bit. I know it sounds crazy but if you do it right its worth it.

opening up with jokes can be a great way to break the ice. ive also read and heard from people that girls love a guy who is both funny and confident. being awkward makes me feel so self conscious but i find if u feel like your talking naturally it all flows together quiet nicely. im all the time getting on to friends and other people about them not caring how they treat themselves and their body. the feeling of depression from lack of movement in my life and utter frustration use to be so debilitating. Its like once u get a girl now u need to treat her right and keep her but sometimes that can be the issue finding the ones worth your affection.

I'm like a bagillion times more talkative online than in real life. Like you, I had trust issues, but for different reasons, and was afraid of getting close to people for certain reasons. I don't know what to talk about with people, and in a group, I just feel out of place, I feel out of place even with just one other person if they aren't my best friends and family. Even my stepdad who I've known since I was born and is an amazing guy, I feel awkward being around him. Online, I have time to think of what to say, without there being an awkward silence. I can fix my mistakes without sounding like a complete fool, etc. In real life, I stutter a lot and I'm really, REALLY quiet, my voice still cracks sometimes because I believe that since I hardly talk, I haven't really fully developed my voice/throat/whatever. But being quiet and shy isn't a bad thing.

I understand where you are coming from bro although personally I find it easy half the time because I have an apathetic mentality I don't care what people think about me I find life to be more fun that way so my advice is although its hard to do try not to think about the after results of the conversation

talking to girls not my strong suit so shy about it the only time i have talked girls is when they have came up to me to me first. I want to be the type of guy who isn't shy/afraid to go up to a girl and talk get to know her easier. i'm different once you have gotten to know me, at first you may thing i'm secluded or don't care for talking much but that's not true i'm just really shy at first been that way since i was lil. take the time to get to know me I feel like I can trust you more i can be my self better i can be outgoing and open mined much more. true i need to do my best to talk and socialize more myself but i have found it hard. talking to peeps online has helped idk why its easier online then in person just is for me.

I have a lot of trouble expressing myself emotionally because it never resulted in anything good in my life. I'd say the last time I talked about my feelings to someone is 3 years ago. @Buji I know exactly what you are talking about with the voice cracking thing. My voice does the exact same thing when I talk, and that is partly the reason I try to avoid talking. The reason it happens is like you said, you just don't use it enough. If you jabber enough the problem would go away.