Why so lonely?

I've tried to get a girl for a long time and everyone of them has said no or there taken. At this point i'm just very depressed about it. This and all the other stuff that I've gone through. I don't feel like living anymore and I feel like if this does not change soon I could just give up. What am I doing wrong and if i'm not doing anything wrong why am I alone?

I know the feeling trust me I do. I get a lot of advise about girls/boys to find love. To my me feel less lonely I play games or just hang out with my friends.

I agree entirely with yudodat. I got into a long term relationship when I was 16 and it went on between us until I was 21, but I was unhappy for a good portion of that time. After being used to having someone around for so long it was hard getting used to being single. I got out of my most recent relationship over a year ago now and have just been taking time to work on me and my interests/hobbies. Once you find that passion in your own life, that thing that sustains you and makes you happy regardless of what others think, someone will come along to share that with you. A good relationship is a give and take and a shared life, but you have to be sure that you have something to share, something to bring to the table (as the saying goes). Sometimes it's confidence issues and those are difficult to work with, but you'll find that if you find your passion in life and do what makes you happy, confidence can follow soon after. Confidence that you are enough to make you happy. If you can't make yourself happy it can get very emotionally taxing on your future partner and that could lead you down a road you don't want to walk. Feel free to message me personally if you want to talk some more, I have plenty of experience to offer! Hang in there, love happens when you least expect it.

@proxy I agree with your advice. Im still finding my passion so i feel i really dont have time to find a significant other. Also, i think relationships are kinda overrated. Dont get me wrong. They're nice. But i agree that you have to love yourself and what you do first. Love Relationships are a good plus but not necessary for a healthy and happy lifestyle. Though it can seem lonely.

I've done much in my life I went to a 2 year law and security school, U.S. Army, school and i'm going to college. I've also been in clubs and done martial arts, yoga, games, art, jobs, and watch a lot of anime. I have family and friends. Even though I've done all this stuff and that I have a lot of stuff I feel empty and very depressed that I don't have a lover. I feel very happy with what I've accomplished in life but I fall short of what really matters to me. That one thing is a someone to love and love me back. I could loose every thing else in life as long as I had someone. Most of the time I feel like I don't belong in this world like there's nothing here to keep me tethered to this world.

Kawa, you sound very depressed. Nobody should ever have to feel that there is nothing left in this world. It's very serious, and very worrisome that you feel this way. You seem to have a lot of things going for you, and also family and friends who would miss you if you were gone. I agree with yudodat. You need someone that can help you. Depression is an illness, just like any other illness out there. The only difference is it effects how you feel emotionally and mentally. Once you are able to heal, you will become stronger, and I have faith that you will find someone. But, it is very important to focus on your health, and it is not healthy to feel the way you are feeling.

The military tried to say I had ptsd but they tested me and said I was fine. I've been through some stuff but for me this feeling is like nothing else. What burns the most is not knowing why I'm single.