Turn offs?

@Missally I know exactly where you are coming from with this one. My second relationship posed as a person who had a IQ of 165. Although I did not ask for proof because I thought it would be rude however as I started dating her more I realized that she wasnt that way. Intellect is definitely something I prefer but its people who lie to themselves I really cant stand. Which in itself is all part of the perception based thinking as well. I think that being a genius isnt about saying hey im smarter then most people. Its about using that intellect you do have to help others down the right path of learning without throwing in any crazy ideals along the way.

I agree, it's really not about the intellect, but how you use it. And just as Yolo said, IQ is really not important. However, if you want to throw it out there that you are a genius, then you'd better demonstrate it. :P

Another turnoff for me is loud voices. Like when you're talking but sounds like you're yelling even though you're only like 2 feet away from me. Another way to look at it is "Stereotypical black girl voice" not trying to be racist or anything, just feel that's the easiest way to define it

Since this thread is getting some attention again. I figured i'd look through the whole thing again, and noticed i've never commented on here yet. Ignorance, low intelligence, alcoholics, drug use (Yes, pot included), Bad grammar, poor hygiene, people who openly talk about their sex life, and those who also have sex with people they aren't in a relationship with, obviously liars and cheaters, jealous/controlling people also turn me off, smoking is a turn off for me but not a deal breaker. And I would have to 100% agree with Buji's comment as well. (But that's not too big of a deal Lol) That being said, I think that's my list of turn offs. (Although i'm sure i'm missing a few things)

SOME OF you people and your 'Turn offs' You can't just state everything you hate and have problems with and just expect someone to waltz into your life that doesn't have not even one of those problems. I'm just saying so, None of us are perfect. And to be human means you and other people will always have a flaws. I think if its simple turn offs you should be strong enough inside yourself to look pass them to see the greater picture. Lets use Shin's example. So what if someone is Ignorant every now and then? People like to learn by there own experiences and sure if they don't listen to you then you shouldn't hate them for that, It is better to learn by your own experiences anyway. Even if it means you need to crash and burn sometimes. I know these are all your preferences but I still think it's unfair to others that if you hear they have one of these flaws in them you instantly cross them our of your list of possible people to be interested in. There is black and white in everyone and you have to accept them both you can't just throw away all the bad and accept only the good that is wrong. We all need balance and if the person is willing to accept your flaws then as much as a turn off it is one of theres you shuld also accept there flaws. You can't have the good without the bad. As simple as that.

Not trying to be rude or anything, Stel, but calm down a bit. This topic is basically "What would you not want in your ideal person" thread As opposed to the "turn on" thread "What would your ideal person be?" Yes nobody is perfect, but that's not necessarily what this thread is about

>"Let's use Shin's example." ^ Let's not. I'm more accepting of peoples flaws than you'll EVER realize. Do you know the meaning of the word ignorance? I'm not simply talking day to day things here. If I was then that in itself would be quite ignorant. Next time you comment on something and use an example, don't use mine. Because your (ironically enough) ignorant assumption, annoys me. Like I said, i'm not talking about little simple ignorant statements that people say and do. One of the examples i'm talking about is the fact that some the fools choose a life of suffering and hell, for years, when they could be happy, living a normal life. I'm not going to go into details or give a better example here, but quite frankly, you try knowing what I know, and putting up with what I put up with. Get off your chair and learn to tell the difference between that of regular petty ignorance, and something that proves to be a serious problem. I would be happry to educate you and tell you hours worth of stories discussing the word "ignorance" and why your argument is invalid JUST because you specifically mentioned me in your comment. You know nothing about me, and what I think of people. I am one of the most accepting people you will ever meet. Period.

Heres my view on the matter. It is true that people naturally are going to have flaws. Morally speaking you should be accepting of those flaws and learn to go around them. However I think you should seek people who fit the person you are after. Is a person wrong for seeking somebody who they feel is a better connection then another person. The answer is simply no they are not. If the person who was not picked feels wrong then that was their choice for choosing said person to pursue. There is no need for the person feeling wronged when the person they are after does not pick them unless that person was specifically leading them on and using them, they were not wronged in the matter. This entire concept that relationships have to happen because I want one is incorrect. I agree with shin on this one. There is nothing wrong with looking out for certain things.. After all you would be hurting the other person you got with later on if you did not try to pick on who fits you. I am accepting of flaws but not if they are serious enough to cause pain in the relationship to a severe extent. @yudodat I agree as well @stellalina On the matter of what you are saying everybody has turn offs and pretty much everybody acts out on them or some form of preferred person they want even if they dont recognize it . For example wanting someone who does not care about flaws is in itself a certain trait you want and can be a turn off if they dont have it. Also my apologies if I came off as mean I am simply disagreeing with some of the stuff you stated.