:3 Maybe i can help you with your relationship probs?

Gamer, how about getting over your ex first and then getting into a new relationship? You owe that to your future partner. And Izumi... That attitude might be the problem. Other than massages those things are something most girls expect of their partner.. Not something they'd feel "lucky" for. I never even thought about whether or not I'm a good catch for a possible partner. That's their job to decide. Not mine.

Holy crap haha this thread is a mess. Izumi necroes it back by 5 years out of the blue, and then as with every thread that @xynox comments in, we get a random butt-in from @xypho. ...then again based on the fact that this is MO, this is pretty much like every other thread on the site.

I think xynox is right. It wouldn't be fair to Gamer's future partner to be treated as a replacement for their last one. Could you honestly ever see yourself in a relationship with someone who still has it bad for their ex and views you as a consolation prize? As for Izumi, I didn't really see anything wrong on his end. Seems more like the guy just needs to broaden his horizons and check out other dating sites/services. Although the line "I would make a great husband for "some lucky" girl. Because I can cook, clean, do laundry," sounds more like he'd make for a great wife.

Not sure if that a good advice but I did think about it. Beside, I never think of my future partner as tool but some say getting new love will forget old love. I did treat girls with respect and my 2nd ex didn't treat me that well. I rather not go for long story since she didn't hurt me that much and I did talk to her from time to time.

Guys that can cook, clean, listen, and massage is a rare gem and good qualities, you just need to find the right woman who will appreciate you, and love you for who you are and not what you can do for her. Be yourself and someone will notice what a good person you are and you can "both" make each other lucky. Gamer, I understand how loneness can eat away and how it can be infuriating and confusing why someone would leave you, but that person is not meant to be in your life anymore, you are meant for someone better who would always be by your side, but rebound relationship only causes further pain and suffering. Give yourself some time to heal your wounds, talk to some nice girls, hang out with friends, and when you calm down and ready you can jump in again. Everyone wants to feel acknowledged, understood, cared, and loved, but there is a lot of different people out there and we have our ways of doing things, living our lives, there is no wrong way to be who you are.

@daggera, I do understand their points and your point of view but something lost and feel empty suddenly. I already gave myself time to heal but the scar wouldn't go away. To be honest I lost all of my friend since I wasn't focus on them, putting my first ex the center but I never knew I would hit rock bottom. I know being sad and complaining will not help me. I just cannot stand it. I feel as I lost part of me. I try to keep myself busy but that didn't help as I thought. When I do date a girl does help me a little but I never treat my 2nd ex as tool. I did try to love her but I rather not say what she did to me. You guys can think I'm bad or just skirt chasing. But I'm serious, I don't want to hide anything from my future partner if I ever had one, which I believe not.... I still appreciate your advice even though did not work.