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karashu
i have a big problem with other ppl they dont seem to like me because im different from their perspective and i always seems to be alone when fx there is grp work in the class im in i have a diffent opinien then they have cus ive spend some of my childhood in japan and i seem to have stuck to that culture and they dont seem to like that plz tell me what can i do to make it better and make them understand that i dont have to have thier opinien to makle a good teammate or friend plz help a fellow otaku in need i really dont have meny friends irl id like to change that. plz forgive my bad english
mroneill1000
well,all i can say is your not doing anything wrong having a different opinion is a good thing and other people need to understand other cultures all i can suggest is approaching them as individuals and make friends one by one you'll soon get a group going,i hope someone has a more useful suggestion than me
kuro_tenshi
Well i'll be your friend, but as for real life you aren't doing anything wrong. the reason you aren't making friends is because they aren't accepting of people who are different. you don't want peiple like that as friends anyways. you just have to use your uniqueness and talk about something you are both interested in. you'll make friends, you just have to understand that not everyone are good people. yoyr friends will be just as unique as you. look for people like that.
karashu
Sep 14, 13 at 1:40am
well tnx for the advice ill do my best
taylorhime
Not a damn thing! The ones doing something wrong are the other people. Don't change yourself for anyone! Be yourself, seriously :)
xueli
Sep 15, 13 at 1:09am
I think I'd need more information to know what's wrong. Sometimes, you gotta kinda look at the common denominator. What specifically is setting them off? If it were me, I think I'd just straight out ask. Sometimes, it's not the reason we think it is that's turning people off. Sometimes they have legitimate reasons we never even thought about that we're subconsciously doing. Like for example, maybe in group work, the way you present your opinion like tone of voice or maybe the body language of which you do so is in a way that people kinda think, wow that guy is angry/unpleasant/negative adjective here. I'm not trying to say that it's gotta be your fault, but I feel like from your opening post, it's kinda an assumption. Can't change or act unless you have facts, ya know?
karashu
Sep 15, 13 at 1:46am
well hard to tell im working on my body-language every day since thats what i work with but i have a hard time adjusting it to other peps cus i really dont know how to act in grp in my ovn contry as i sead before i spent most of my childhood in japan and thats were i became who i am today im not arogant or saying im right but im working on it every day
the_geeky_panda
I am having the hardest time reading but I will wing it, Overall just screw it, why surround yourself with people who don't understand you at all. Find those who understands you for you.
jellyfish
It's happening all the time with me. BUT. Don't and Never change your way of thinking. 1) Always listen to other opinion first be kind to other 2) say that you have a different way of seeing the thing 3)and after say your opinion. 4) debate with other in a gentleman way. (><) usually it's helping a lot.
karashu
Sep 16, 13 at 10:54am
tnx for the reply i will use those things and improve little by little but re main who i am on the inside
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