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koji @gaxelgaxel
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koji @gaxelgaxel
the feeling of being left behind because your friend found new friend...she dont mean to leave you or dont intend to leave or abandon you..but you feel alone coz every time your all together, you dont know what they are talking.. they notice your sad then try to get you involve also in the topic so you wont get sad.. but i feel sad and still fell left behind.. is it just me or???
Toltecatl (Mike) @toltecatl
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Toltecatl (Mike) @toltecatl
I felt this way a while back. I notice that you're from the Philippines, so I can't account for any cultural differences, but I'll share my experience. I hope that it helps in some way.
So, after my brother got married and many of my other friends got engaged or have serious relationships I started to feel as though everyone I knew was drifting away from me. I think when everyone you know is in a relationship and you're not it only enhances the loneliness you already have. I thought what I really wanted more than anything was companionship. I tried to reach out to one of my female friends but things started to get weird and I endangered our friendship. (Basically, don't do this. If it something isn't meant to be, don't try to force it!)
I eventually dropped it. I thought about not hanging out with any of my friends anymore. As time went on, I learned to accept things the way they are and decided to commit myself to being more outgoing and forging new friendships. I'm still not the "out of my shell" type yet, but I'm working on it. That's why I'm here reaching out to new people. I think you're going in the right direction.
I still hang out with my old friends at least once a week and, despite them having separate lives now, we're all still very close. So, to make a long story short, time eventually does fix everything. It may not be the answer you're looking for now but I hope you come to the same understanding that I have. If you need some friends in the meantime I'd be more than happy to talk to you.
koji @gaxelgaxel
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koji @gaxelgaxel
thank you,,, very much appreciated.. it's nice that not only me feels this way or has gone into this kind of experience.. you know what,, every time i experience being left behind, when your with them, they're talking and laughing and you have no clue what they're into,, i feel like i just wanna run way and be alone rather than reach out to them coz i'm afraid they will tell me that i'm drawing too much attention to get notice so that i will not be left behind..i'm a quite person a shy type. if i'm not working in office maybe i'm close enough to being a shut in person. i know it's my problem being too quite not my friend, she's just being friendly
Rain @rainx
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Rain @rainx
Yeah, being a third/fifth/seventh wheel in social situations kinda sucks. A lot of my friends have had long lasting relationships, have gotten engaged, married, etc. and some starting to have kids too. It can definitely amplify the loneliness and make you recede a bit further into your social shell.
talamar @talamar
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talamar @talamar
Umm I think everyone feels that way.. Insecurity never ever goes away. Maybe able to handle it better when you are old but it still nags. I know I get annoyed when several of my friends get together and did not think to invite me... makes me feel a little bad like I was on lower tier of friends type of thing. So it's not just you.
koji @gaxelgaxel
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koji @gaxelgaxel
mmm you mean.. i also feel insecurity.. then it's a bad thing..i feel jealous of my friend coz she's so friendly...if i'm insecure then i'm like a bad person,, the feeling sucks and at the same time it's a sin.. noooooooo
Kane Anrui @kaneanrui
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Kane Anrui @kaneanrui
I've been left behind by pretty much all my old friends. It was an awkward transition from "best friends, let's be roommates in college and each others best man at our weddings" to "Ignore Kane's existence". As a positive pessimist, I just accepted it. Don't like that it happened, but it did. Sho ga nai.
I just look for new friends. I'm not exactly Mr.Social-Butterfly, but I make friends at my own pace.
feydikan @feydikan
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feydikan @feydikan
I have had roughly the same thing happen, many a year ago. Was the last relationship I had in fact, and the ending situation resulting from it more or less turned into the wise fool I am today..... But that's my sad story.
At some point my friend, you need to make a decision: to stay in the role, or stand up choose another. Making that choice can be very hard: But living with in that role can be even harder.
In the end, you have to choose, grow and learn from it.
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