so I'm on a dating site

Don't be so pessimistic. You create the world you live in. What you think is gonna happen will happen and that's just the secret to life.

Haha Pessimistic? You honestly think that? Judging me now because I'm giving you advice on how to be more successful on a dating website? ok. sounds good. If you honestly think you're going to have it easy by going about the way you've been doing it. Then by all means feel free to continue on. I'm just telling you why a picture would make a difference, for the better or worse. And if that's how you want it to be, why even post a thread on this situation if you're not willing to put in effort? And yes, what you think is going to happen, will happen... "IF" you put the effort in it. As for the whole " You create the world you live in "... Lol. It's true, you do. But that doesn't stop people from choosing looks over personality first. That's the human nature.

I remember reading that from the book "The Secret". XD Anyways. .__. I agree that a picture would help. Although some people just aren't active and don't reply right away. So. There is hope, you know?

Dating sites haven't really done any of us a favor so far have they? They are supposed to make things easier but there will always be the human element. They provide very small windows into people's lives but we limit the interaction. If anything, I know other otaku are out there, the odds of establishing a relationship are rather slim but you never know. Otherwise we can make friends if nothing else.

Yes I thank you for the advise. But is it really good advice? Posting pics for the people who look at looks first is going to do the opposite of what I want.

Yeah eventually I will. But for now its a lot easier to make friends, then if they don't like what they see it won't be the end of conversation.

Is it really good advice? Uhhh. Yeah. I encourage you to go and try other dating websites without posting a picture of yourself and see how successful you are... you won't be. Posting pics isn't just for people who look at looks first. Some people want to see how you look like just because if you don't post a photo of yourself, it means that you're either very self conscious (Everyone is) or "You're not wanting to put in any effort" Look MizzMay, i'm going to tell you straight up. I would rather a person not talk to me because they know how I already look like. Rather than someone acting to be the "Typical Dream Guy" and then seeing a photo of you (If you're unattractive to them) and then deciding that they no longer want to talk to you anymore. In this sense, it's a lot more harmful to the feelings and it hurts a lot more for a person to dismiss after getting to know you for awhile than someone to simply ignore you because of how you look. Fact of matter is, it's a losing game and you can only win with persistence. Call me pessimistic if you want but these are facts.

Yeah, there are people like that, but there's also people that even if they "don't like what they see" still stick around and give it a chance. It could be a good thing too. Sure people tend to care about looks, but not everyone is going to exclusively only care about looks. Posting a picture can help you find those people too. That is unless you are a Victoria Secret model! XD In all seriousness though. Posting a picture does give you some transparency. It feels like you're an actual person rather than just any random person online--at least that's my opinion. :3 Edit: Shoot. =3= What tornadomushroom said basically^

Yeah like I said I will most likely do it later but for now I'm good with being the random person on the internet. Just gotta think things over snd find a good enough pic. Jeez maybe I am too self concious. But if that's my biggest problem I should be ok.... right?