Advice for the Socially Awkward

In my case it's easier to be social online, in part because I'm a writer--being online affords me the time to consider and refine the words I want to use, whereas in person I don't think well on my feet verbally, and tend to not know what to say unless I'm really comfortable with someone and we're on a familiar subject.

*yawwwnns* I used to be a super shy person myself. VERY trusting and now I'm just a very open douchebaggin prick who trusts nobody! lol. Fact is, once you've experienced the lost of trust, it's hard to give anyone trust. Obviously. However, i think being able to trust others and etc comes with time and not with advice. You cannot educate the mind without educating the heart. Time is precious but we revolve around it. Just worry about yourself instead of others, that's all i can really tell you. Being able to have a conversation with someone online/IRL and knowing what to say is never an issue. Everyone struggles, but it all comes with confidence. Friend or crush.

I had the trial by fire experience. I crash and burned on the road of self improvement so many times that there's no analogy to describe it. But the best advice? Improve your body guy/girl doesn't matter. Improving your body will make you naturaly more confident and other things will fall into place. Things are also only awkward if you make them or feel like they are. Being confident allows you to say the same things that would make you crash and burn and instead have the whole room applauding you. Caring about yourself is included in this by default so it also includes tornado mushrooms advice.

Also fake it till you make it. That sounds cliche but its real. Emulating the real thing until you are effectively the real thing. Human identity is not static its dynamic and all of psychology and neuroscience will tell you that. By acting that way your identity will shift and you will become it. Drop any naive notions about being "true to ones self" those are only things we tell ourselves when we're took afraid to take the leap.

i've just come to accept that i'll never feel like i'm a part of the human race. i'll never undergo some change of personality that will cause me to view people as people - i'll always see them as pre-programmed automatons with devious motives. personally the reason i get anxious around human beings is because they are unknown to me and i fear the unknown. i've been in lots of relationships with women who shared my interests, tastes, quirks and views, made me laugh and lust, and i still felt like we were two separate species and that i'd never really relate to them. i know its not what you want to hear but my advice is get used to it. i'm exactly as distrustful of other people as i was as a child and i don't see it changing in the near future. if you can find another person that is the same way as you in that respect, it'd make things easier. it's just thr majority of thr world you'll have a problem with.

.....i used to be shy. The main reason anyone doesnt trust people is because they have been betrayed by someone one way or another when they did trust them. You have to try and continue to try and help yourself be a better person. If you want to be more sociable try it try it try it. I garentee you nobody gets anywhere without trying hard to change themselves and tripping over themselves making mistake after mistake after mistake. Its how we human beings learn. I learned how to be sociable through forcing myself to do things i was afraid of doing in public. Face your fears if you have any. Thats some advice. COonfidence only comes from experience. Your brain doesnt just get things automaticlly . Its only easier and faster for natural sociable people to figure that out. They through thselves out there too because they know theres nothing to be afraid of and if there is something that hurts them they can take it. Part of being sociable is just being strong and confident in your own abilitys. You will only know that and get that through experience though.

I spent quite a few years feeling like that. Chuckles. Its a hard flunk to climb out of n u have to really push to get past it and slowling begin to open and and connect with others. I had to figure out it hurt worse to stay away from people than the option of giving friendship a risk.

well i can give personal experience advise for the socially awkward people of the world in resume i grew up in a farm, no neighbors no nothing and of course it was in a racist place zone thingy i am the oldest and no family in that place so yea i grew up half of my life alone, i have always been socially awkward until i got into college since i learned that all i needed to do to gain peoples trust and so i can gain theres, to learn how to "interact" with more people and eventually date someone is well jut plan "practice" like start to hang out (well most of our case...if it is not everybody that is reading this :v) comic anime store in your town, go to the mall and just hang out regularly and so on, when you start to feel well "confy" with people start a conversation that relates to that person, idk you are at a comic book shop and someone has a pin on there backpack of your fav. anime or atleast of one you recognize and start off from there just start off little by little and you will succeed also i can't figure out more advise since it's kinda late over here and my brain is not working at it's 100% :P

I believe the reason why sites like ths were created is so the social awkward barrier doesn't even happen because most social activity is on the site.