Virgin talk.

Well yeah, it won't be amazing the first time. But I don't want to remember that person specifically. When I have my doubts that this person won't be committed, it is really hard to want to go through a painful experience like my first time having sex. I've only had one boyfriend and he cheated on me after a few months. 2 years later, I met a guy who I just really liked. We would talk for hours endlessly on the phone or Skype calls. When we would be together, we couldn't keep our hands off each other. I kept telling him that I wanted us to be a couple but things were standing in the way it seems. He has wanted to have sex with me but I always felt uneasy and doubtful about his motives. A lot of weird stuff happened because once he moved and changed school, he was busy. But somehow, he got a girlfriend from the same town I am in. It disgusted me. Somehow though, I couldn't hate him. I told myself, "It will end, it will end, it will end." It was then March, 3 months passed by, and they broke up. When I told him how I have always liked him, and he was all like "Oh, I didn't know that. I thought you stopped." I thought I made it pretty apparent with the letters and cards I sent him. So after not seeing him for 9 months, we finally met. I was planning on telling him "I love you," because I knew we would probably ending up having sex and I was totally to-go with that. I just wanted him to know how I really felt. After a year and all this drama, I felt like it was right. Once in the moment, I told him. He then stopped and said "I think you need to rethink your priorities." I feel like if I had sex in the past with him, I would have regretted it so much and I wouldn't be able to forget all of the emotional and physical pain he brought to me. I'd really like to loose my virginity to someone who I trust and mature. Not to a little scared boy.

Okay. So I am still a virgin, and I'm planning on staying that way til marriage. I have the purity ring and everything. It's not a religious thing. I don't even think sex is "special" to a girl. It's not that big of a deal. But the reason I wait is for normal reasons. I don't want to be a hit it and quit it. Or only be dated, just to lose my cherry. I've seen it happen many times. At least with marriage they are actually truly in love. This is coming from a 17 year old girl. Not a crazy "hormonal" one. People need to stop blowing up that sex is sacred. It doesn't make any difference in you're life. It's not going to ruin you forever.

+1000 to everything Rina just said. I think you've got your priorities straight just fine. You want to make sure that what you have is real and lasting.

I think virginity and when to lose it and whatnot are some of those things where there's no wrong time, or something that has a dead line to it. Just when you feel like doing it for whatever reason you want to do it for, then go for it. People always have various stories about how they lost it. They hated it, they loved it, they did it with a stranger, they did it with someone they loved. I mean, there's so many combinations of cause and effect that no one can tell you that if you do A, then B happens.

From someone who has observed others from thick and thin(because I'm just out of the loop), I'm just going to reiterate what Lalafell said. Don't lose it to someone who won't matter in the future. Or who isn't special to simply put it. ~T

I think "wait till marriage" is a VERY stereotype thing ( asuming that everyone wants to freaking marry ) and also a VERY VERY VERY murrica thing to say. Because in murrica it seems to be ( almost ) a must to get married. Being from europe. Atleast the place were I live. People dont give a shit if you are married or not. Alot of parents who never married and nobody gives a rats ass or makes a big deal about it. I might marry but I highly doubt it caus I dont need it or care for it. Losing the V card... meh... expect it to be bad.