damn it... this is pissing me of...

So here is the story I like this girl at my school, she is amazingly cute, funny, a bit strange(in a good way), and is really cool. There are two problems though: a) I graduate this year and will hopefully be going into military service, but she is a year younger than me in school. b) (this is less of a problem) my friend who is likebrother to me also likes her and asked her out(even if he failed) a while back. I guess the real issue is how I don't feel right about asking her out knowing, more likely than not, it may very well only last a few months.

I think that you should try to first figure out how much you like this girl and what she is worth to you. Then if she ends up being worth it...go for it. Living life without love related regrets is probably the healthiest. living with regrets when it comes to love, can be extremely painful, i've personal experience watching my parents relationships. If your bro-bud already knows you like her too, she is fair game..i'm pretty sure thats apart of bro-code or something like that. Also stay honest...to yourself and her.(If She says yes) If you like her enough to take her on dates and stuff, then explain the situation to her, explain your plans for your future and where you see yourself headed. You both need a solid understanding of what the both of you want outta your relationship along with how things are going to go once you sign up for the military. Also remember how old you both are and try to understand what dating experience you both have, since that can affect how serious things are going to get. Don't make it too serious!!! Unlike anime and manga (Regrettably) the real world doesn't have people in it (or it rarely does and they usually turn out to be psycho) who put that much dedication into a relationship. Wana stay happy and stay friends even if things don't work out? Keep it light, romance is totally okay :D, roses and stuff are amazing gifts. But don't make promises niether can keep or pressure one another for loyalty that isn't deserved :)

I think you should go for it. Even if it is only for a little while, who knows, if you two are really meant to be, you'll figure something out to make it work. Sometimes, when you ask someone out, you risk getting rejected, and you risk not having it work out. But the experiance you gain from it is far more valuable. Trust me when I say you don't want to let an opportunity pass you by, and spend the rest of your life wondering what could have been or what would have happened. When I was younger, I lost my chance at 3 girls I really liked because I was extremely shy and introverted, I never got the courage to confess and ask them out. Once it was too late, I found out that they liked me, and had wanted me to ask em out, but now I couldn't because they already found someone else and were quite happy. Go for broke man, don't leave yourself regretting your past inactions.

You wont know unless you try, you don't normally know the feelings of the person until you really get to know them though. The worst thing that can happen is you are turned down.

i say leave it alone if its not some thing serious i mean its you bro is it realy worth to put that reltionship in danger for a girl your not sure if you love her or not but the best way ofcourse is to talk it over with the guy and tell him the situation en pull your conclusions on wath to do from that conversation

I'm proud of you Phoenix, a bummer it didn't end up how you probably wanted it to, but at least you don't have to live your lfie wondering about what COULD have happened, right?