The Worn-Out dating dogma.

I try to be open and my guard is usually not up myself I try to be positive and see whats out there along with helping others along i used all my pain from relationships to build myself up and help others with it regardless of how much i help as long as i help just a bit that is all that matter and sometime find somebody out here for me but besides that find good friends that will build a strong support for me and mayby one of those friends might even build into a relationship

You'll find someone Jester, I promise you that. I don't want to say this, but I believe it's better to have friends who can help pick you up than let one person ruin your life.

Yep im aware but i will be as positive as i can about it and not let myself down if im not getting anywhere i see way to much hate and negativity already in the world i dont think i need to add to it afterall especially with my goals i shouldnt so as long as there is a chance for something out there im going to keep pushing on regardless of what happens but i understand your point you feel the pain from your own view and see that it is hard to find somebody really for people who are different or not noticed and many other unpopular things out there but hey if you give up or just constantly try to say you wont then what is the point there if you want somebody now and days you have to be ready to stand up and show it however undrestand that you should be patient and calm about it dont just go up and say i love you right off the bat lol

xueli, i read that article and it basically says that the friend zone is in fact a real thing. even though their thesis was that it wasn't. contradictory. lol.

I don't think the occasional friend zone is bad, but for a lot of guys, if that's all that happens to them for what seems like years on end, it can definitely get to a person after awhile. It can be a real confidence drainer and can make you really second guess yourself when it comes to relationships.

True but i cant let that kind of thing get to me i have to keep going foward regardless i know that and hopefully you too cecil will find somebody at the end of this as well