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Been looking for girlfriend, expectations too high?

red_ranger
Hello, I was hoping someone could help me out on this. I have been looking for the right girlfriend for a while now. I have not dated anyone (except one girl for a week that moved away) and Im told I won't find a girlfriend with my given expectations. I am looking for a girl who is smart, funny, drug free (this is a must), never had sex before (another must), caring, kind, great personality, and most of all has a great future planed out ahead of them. Every time I tell a friend of these expectations their replies are always "good luck", "Like you will find someone like that", or "Its near impossible to find someone like that now". So Im not sure if I just have high expectations or if Im expecting too much. The reason I have never really dated is because not once have I seen someone who fit these. Thank you guys so much for reading this, I really appreciate it.
cecil
I don't know why you seem so hell bent on dating a virgin. Sex is an important part of any relationship, but if you won't date a girl who has slept with someone else before you, you're expectations are way to high imo. Most everything else seems realistic as far as finding someone who meets a lot of what you're looking for, but your chances of finding some with those exact qualifications is slim. And even if you meet someone like that, theres no guarantees they'll be interested in you.
red_ranger
That is very understandable. But I don't want to be with someone who has slept around multiple times and think that its alright. But your statement about giving it to someone that betrayed her would be my only exception, but nothing really beyond that.
ryuseven_0
You have to be careful with expectations the higher you set them. More will be expected of you. Remember that in this day and age nearly all people are corrupted or have done something that won't agree with you. Specially the older the person is. You have draw a line of what you will accept and try not to expect so much that it becomes unreasonable. Other wise you will find yourself alone. High expectations kill and ruin relationships. No one will enjoy the relationship with expectations too high and ruining each other's comfort zone. You want to make someone feel welcomed accepted and at ease. You don't want them to have to watch their back from you. If that makes sense. This is in general to expectations alone not specific to your post. Just want to make that clear.
momoichi
I can understand the virgin thing :P just someone pure and unused, i kinda look for the same in my men XP But as for the personality bit seems what every guy wants :P No good lucks, I say it'll be a matter of time ^__________^
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