What am I doing wrong?

I can't ever seem to get a response on dating sites. I have a career and make good money, I'm a loyal sappy romantic lovable goofball that is 100% myself at all times. I travel for my business so it's hard to meet people. I'm straightforward and direct, so maybe "Hi I'm Devan, you're radiant and we have a lot of common interests and I think we would vibe, how are you tonight?" isnt the best approach?? I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

What makes you think you're doing anything wrong? The fact that you're not getting the responses you want? Nah, think for a moment on how entitled that sounds. It's almost like saying "I put in the $, pressed the number and I'm not getting what I payed for.". What makes you think there should be any sort of guarantee? Why are you, out of the hundreds of thousands of people using dating sites so special that you must be doing something wrong? It's not that you're doing anything wrong (Well, we don't know exactly what you say.),it's your mind set. The fact that you ask a question like this means you think you're owed something for your efforts and don't understand why it's not working. Thing is, there is absolutely no guarantee, just as off line. My friend, it's all about chance. If there was an exact formula, it'd be world known by now. Just take it easy and relax. Truthfully, the best luck most have is when they aren't pressuring themselves to look and instead just focus on the natural flow of life. Edit: Just read your profile. Don't ever say what you want and only what you want. You're online, you're advertising yourself and by saying only what you want rather than who you are, you're treating the humans on the other side of the screen as an object.

Have you tried being direct, and just asking them out? (Though this works better in person.) Online dating is your chance to be someone else for once. Take advantage of it. >~>

It's a little bit long for a introduction, I guess. What I allways use is the classic " hi , I am Bruce " then follow it up with a funny joke ( works best when it's related to her) Don't give up my boi. learning to date is like learning to ride a bike. You have to find a nice balance first.

@yaashat I could say the same for your outlook. You go on a tangent about how I'm entitled when really truly I dont understand how people work and was just asking for advice, which is taking my question in the highest negative light on your first though on the matter, which is evidence of an overall cynical outlook on life. The words I speak and type have no second meanings. I dont know what I'm doing, so I'm asking a community meant to be understanding for advice on the matter. But its standard logic: If A, then B, if B therefore C. If not C, then either A or B is faulted. So, if Response (C) isnt there, then I'm not attractive enough physically or in personality (A), or I'm not approaching correctly (B). Statistically speaking I know I'm not going to be attractive to at least 50% of the entirety of users, so nbd. But out of the other 50%, if only 75% of them are a match personality wise and and 100% of those matches dont answer, it's clearly a fault in my approach when messaging. As for my profile, I just created this one yesterday so its unrefined. And the dating profiles in question have everything about me on them. All my interests, who I am, my dreams and goals as well as what I'm looking for. Beings that I'm always traveling (3 wk minimum gone, 7 days maximum home) it's next to impossible to find people in the "natural flow of life" which is why I'm even online to try. I dont "expect" a response from anyone, I'm just trying to figure out how to increase my chances because what I'm doing doesnt work. Now, take the past 4 years into consideration, messaging well over a hundred different women each year that have profiles saying they have the same interests and similar goals and wants but none ever message back, unless they're fake profiles and it's a camgirl trying to get me to buy her porn subscription. Anyone would believe they are doing something wrong after 4 years of the same results. I need help but I dont know what questions to ask. I just know something isnt working and I want to figure out what that is. I feel like a computer throwing up an unknown error message while my core programming runs endlessly in the background

I'm guessing you're talking about sites like OKCupid? Those sites are like 99% based off appearance, your profile and messages don't even matter if the person doesn't think you're attractive. The 50% statistic thing you're talking about applies more IRL than in online, bc when girls are online they're bombarded with messages so they only pick out the most attractive people. Tinder is a bit different but there was a study done it recently where it showed the same 5% of men get almost all the matches. I wouldn't think too much about tbh, if you're getting that many bad results from online dating, you'll probably have to go IRL.

the ebst thing is to keep it short, i just say "hey" and we talk normally, after some time just say that you are interested (jsut say interested, don't write all the phrase) and ask if want to know each other if she says yes , good if she says no, good the thing is keep searching for the one