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gundamu
Yeah, I personally haven't experienced this much as of late...Honestly I've been more of the person needing to give hints when I get messaged by people with just "hey" and they don't really make any efforts to keep up the conversation but persistently keep trying to start conversations with just that, it's pretty awkward Though yeah, I'd say I'm essentially at the same point as Beyonder when it comes to this type of stuff. Once I see the listed behaviors, I'm out.
reclaw
Max @reclaw commented on Taking a hint
Aug 07, 19 at 2:41pm
Lol Seiei I've had the same happen to me a couple of times.
baithoven
Aug 07, 19 at 3:03pm
Oh yeah women are never straight forward, especially when it comes to rejection or break ups. But basically stuff like wishy washy answers, short replies, not wanting to spend time with you, being unavailable or "busy", being kinda flaky and in irl interactions stuff like not making eye contact, facing away from you with their body are all signs of disinterest. If a girl likes you she'll make it easy for you to find ways to spend time with her and she'll actually reach out to you rather than you always having to reach out to her.
willurameshi
Aug 07, 19 at 3:05pm
When someone treats you with indifference it’s time to do the same. Hard lesson to learn sometimes.
reinhardt76
Aug 07, 19 at 3:08pm
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sweetmaid
Aug 07, 19 at 11:13pm
As a female, I have to laugh at half of these "hints". Sometimes when someone replies half-assed they don't always do it on purpose. You should just be direct and ask them if they aren't interested in talking to you. I know that a lot of the times my half-assed responses are because I'm tired and I want to reply to avoid making people feel ignored but I don't have the energy to keep an actual detailed conversation, especially if I'm typing on my mobile. So just becareful that you're not tossing out people who have valid reasons behind these supposed "hints." If the person is purposely online constantly and isn't replying much, not giving you any reasons as to why and is straight up seemingly avoiding you then yeah, I would take that as a hint. But it's better to be direct and recieve a direct answer, is it not?
personalmaidservice
Never goes well, ppl are to blind to see stuff.
baithoven
Aug 07, 19 at 11:26pm
@Maid Sure, there are exceptions like when someone is tired and all but certainly if someone shows the hints I mentioned consistently then there's definitely a low level of interest going on there. I personally wouldn't recommend asking someone if they aren't interested in talking to you, it makes you come off as needy and if it wasn't because of a lack of interest that they were being short with you then you could be talking that person out of liking you.
burninghalo
@Baithoven(awesome name btw) even were it the case that someone was consistently being short with you because they simply were not that interested in you let me ask you: do you WANT such a person playing any major role in your life? It can be hard when you become emotionally invested in someone to think of letting that person go. But fact is you should avoid getting so invested in someone if the feeling is in no way mutual. So by all means if you want to continue talking to someone then let them know if they've been making a habit out of being short with you and you'd like to talk with them more. If they have been doing it a lot they might just make that effort and you go from there. If not and they just don't want to talk to you anymore...GOOD Life is sooo damn short. And there is NO getting time back. Why the everloving hell would you want to waste time trying to befriend or get involved with someone who did not feel the same.
marthmain69
^ This, a thousand times this. Without context from body language/tone of voice, that same direct language can be seen as just being plain creepy. Creepy or needy, I'd say. And sometimes that neediness can border on perceived psychopathy. It's a bullet you'd rather dodge. Especially when someone ends up being so direct that it makes you feel uncomfortable, or just unable to respond. Also don't forget some people are more talkative than others, too. To assume that someone is always working at angle is honestly a bit pretentious. Maybe I can't speak to it because I'm a guy, but I don't know. I take things at face value, and hate reading into things. But to think everyone who ever talks to you is working some angle is awfully pessimistic view. I even think that, and I'm a pessimist.
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