Masturbating in relationships

This was a topic I was talking about with my debate group in school last weekend. Everyone that had an opinion about it, found it okay to masturbate in relationships. I found it extremely weird actually, because I remember when I masturbated when I was in a relationship with my ex, that I felt super guilty about it. It wasn't even so much looking at other girls, it was more the fact that I was doing something in private, and I felt like I should "save" myself for having sex with her. If that makes sense. Really interesting topic to be honest. Your opinions?

hm, good idea it depends why theyr masturbating if its due to lack of sex, than obviously that needs to be discussed are they hiding the behavior? do they just want to jerk off? i found my bf would fap despite me being asleep in the next room, and that really hurt me. not just the lying, but just not bothering to talk to me that he wanted more sex. we eventually fixed it, but the bigger problem was the hiding it and lack of communication as opposed to the act itself i still fap despite being in a sexually active relationship, cause sometimes you just know how best you like it :P

That might be why I felt so guilty. Because I didn't talk about it. Not like she wanted me to talk about my problems to her anyways, but still. That probably explains it. Sex is kinda sacred, isn't it? I guess if the other person has a higher libido than the other, in that case you would want to masturbate apart from sex because the other person might not feel like having sex. I do however feel like people should be able to masturbate whenever they feel like it, even if you don't tell each other everytime you fap.

yeah doesn't sound too healthy, communication is everything in a relationship yeah masturbation in a relationship is perfectly fine as long as both parties know i dont think they have to know everytime, but in just in general xD if you want sex and she doesnt, nothing wrong with rubbing one out, though it may make her feel inadequate which again is why communication on the topic is necessary

Yeah, I'm far more rational now, don't worry. That kind of relationship, will never, ever happen again. I've never understood why girls would feel inadequate if guys masturbate. Is it because they think they should have a higher libido? Or maybe because they are comparing themselves to porn stars? Or both? Or is there maybe another reason to it?

If I was in a relationship I would be fine if they masturbated and I didn't know about it. However If they Masturbated because they thought I wasn't up for sex then I would feel a little bad. As Lamby says communication is key, another key is if your bf/gf isn't up for sex then that doesn reflect badly on you :D

That always seemed a bit weird to me personally; to still masturbate while in a relationship instead of just getting it on (unless the other person is sick or can't do it for health reasons at the moment)