A different kind of question.

Well, in all honesty, I think I have come to the point where it's time to get some outside perspective on something that I've been churning over in my mind for years now. So, here's the thing. The past four girls that have shown interest in me tend to echo the same thing, when we reach the point where I'm ready to ask them out. I'm the "kinda guy they'd rather marry and raise kids with than date". I don't really know what it is that makes them think this way. I know I'm demisexual, and can't move as swiftly into a relationship as most people want. I know I'm a slow burner, who pulls people in a little bit at a time, thus can't really "compete" for affection. But I don't exactly understand why I get written off so easily into this category. Does this happen to anyone else? Is it a common problem? I haven't really seen too many topics about it, so... I don't really know what everyone's take on the subject is. But considering marriage isn't really my goal right now, its becoming a little problematic.

Oh, I've done my soul searching, and so far, Teacup kinda echoes what my own thoughts are saying. That's why I kinda wanted more perspectives on the subject. Though in one girl's case, she didn't stop liking me, just that she didn't want to date me. Then she got confused as to why I started treating her like a friend, took it as a sign of rejection, then moved on. Not exactly sure what she expected of me. But yeah, rejecting is hard, I can agree with that. I have actually had some girls try really hard to get in my pants, but being demisexual and all, I simply couldn't really provide them with that. I don't think using sex as a means of bonding is a bad thing. In fact, I find it kinda beautiful, but its just not something I'm wired for. So how the hell do you convey that without making it feel like you're shaming them? "Hey, can we get to know each other first? I can't get hard on your body alone." <--can be taken horribly.

Hmm... Getting taken for granted. Kinda makes sense, I guess. That has happened a lot when I ended up in love triangles. Like I get the feeling that I'm treated as "The safe option" or something.