Straight or Bi - and how did you realize?

Disagreed @Leo the Wolf. It isn't as simple for some people. A person like me, who has some severe emotional disturbances, does not get "the butterflies" for a person. In fact, people desiring that from me has made things uncomfortable. Considering my own ego, my grandiosity, and my emotional disabilities (Such as Aspergers Syndrome), I have had a very difficult time dealing with any sort of romantic relationships. Certain issues only made it worse in middle school. But to hell with you, basically saying your attractions are inherently placed in you. My interests in women are counteractive to problems I've had in the past and in contrast to societal perception. But no, you're going to say that everyone is the same. Bull. Not everyone is the same. Not everyone is simple as you make it sound to be. We are all diverse, therefore we are all inequal. People can develop negative receptions to a gender based off of past trauma.

Bi I made out with a guy By then I realised......maybe im bi the end

@Oneman. Look, I'm not going to start a fight. But a young girl, just asked about attraction. Obviously Butterflies isn't the "Norm" for adults especially exceptions, which you yourself proved you were by saying you have emotional disabilities. You date who you find attractive. This is usually based in Physically appearance and sexuality. (Unless you want to tell me people ARE TURNED GAY or Bi, Through trauma or other factors. Which then the LGBT Community has been wrong in alot of areas.) So yes, Generally. Sexuality, and Attraction Is Inherent. That's not an argument. That's a fact. We teach kids at school. Dogs have four legs and Human's have ten fingers. There are plenty of people born with Twelve fingers, and dogs with three legs. We teach the general rule. Not the abnormality unless we are given reason to believe the abnormality has something to do with the specific conversation. Which it, at this moment has not. You're making a problem where there isn't any. Young girl says, I don't know if I'm Bi. I say. In short, Date who you want. Figure it out. You are acting very aggressive with no meaning. When you're young, Butterflies, Crushes, Usually is the first thing you find in romance. (not including sexual attraction.) So I said it in a more childlike way. You should calm down man. Never said everybody's the same, All I said is it was simple. Which that is true. Everybody wants to make mountains out of hills over sexuality or attraction. It's really not that complex. Date who you want, who you like, who you find attractive, and you'll do fine. That is true. It sucks you have your issues, but she didn't seem to bring anything up about them. SO instead Presuming that I'm some "Close minded that believes we're all the same" bs. You should look at the topic. She says she thinks she could be happier with girls. That may be true. That may be wrong. She'll only know when she herself tries it out. Hence my first post. Have a nice day.

(Actually, that was my point, that people CAN be turned one way or the other. I wanted the girl to not bother thinking of how this reflects their sexuality and be fine with whomever they date and throw worthless labels aside.) No, it isn't a "fact". You teach it at school as generally accepted curriculum. Fact doesn't come in here, and quite frankly, you cannot admit "Obviously Butterflies isn't the "Norm" for adults especially exceptions, which you yourself proved you were by saying you have emotional disabilities." on one hand, then on another, contradict yourself with "So yes, Generally. Sexuality and Attraction is inherent." What a pile of garbage. Not only is this contradictory, it is inherently wrong. Even more egregiously, you pass it off as fact solely due to the idea that "we teach it at school". Hate to break it to you, but curriculums have been wrong before, and could easily be corrected once infantile scientific research will have more knowledge to develop. Human sexuality can in fact be entirely foreign and hostile to a person. Especially a portion of people NOT interested in people and more about their self-centered ideologies. It is an ACTUAL fact that children have NO inherent attractions. Attractions are DEVELOPED through PUBERTY. Until then, they have no attractions. They're kids, and this is taught in health classes. That you do not have a natural one, that it is entirely dependent upon the PERSON rather than the person's GENDER. Which is what she SHOULD pay attention to. Clearly though, you didn't see it that way. Not that I can blame you, since the way I seem to write seems incoherent to everyone else, but makes perfect sense to me. And who are you to say my aggression is with no meaning? There is plenty of meaning to everything I do. I got aggressive because you're missing the point and confusing the girl with generalizations that are FALSE for the reasons I have stated. The lesson here is this: Don't pay attention or care about gender or sexuality labels. Care for someone based on their merits. Ignore us older folk, and enjoy your life for what it is.

@Cero If you didn't like it, you weren't gay. Don't misinterpret things.

I did not contradict myself. I said In General, do you see that pretty little phrase, "in general" In general, Human's have ten fingers, so we say, Oh, a human being has ten fingers. In General, people have two eyes. Hence why I used it. Generalities matter. It's to teach the mass population, what they are most likely to deal with. Am exception does not make a general rule wrong. Sexual attraction is inherent. Yes you develop it through puberty, it's through your hormones. Hence why on odds, Guys like girls, and girls like guys. Certainly you can try to brainwash people into liking a specific sex, but odds are it won't work(Hence why electro shock therapy, and other pray the gay away techniques don't turn them straight.). You aren't taught a sex attraction, it's biologically done. Through that wonderful phase, we call puberty. Hence why Pedophiles, and those with gender dysphoria, have different brains. It's because the hormones were screwed up during some part of the maturing process and made a abnormality. Yes you can teach things that are wrong in school, haven't you ever heard of an analogy? And I don't know what schools you've been to, But they never taught me about sexual preferences. Only why we have our organs and what we do with them. Kids are not brainwashed to be attracted to someone. She's young, she should do what she feels is natural, she should find herself. It's calling maturing. That is not a wrong philosophy to go off of. A straight kid won't be attracted to the same sex. Hence why labels exist. They are straight. There is nothing wrong with a label. It helps describe things to others. And yes you are being overly aggressive and it shows a lack of maturity on your part. If you can't make your argument without getting pissy than odds are, you shouldn't be talking about it. Because of your own biases. The real lesson is. Do what feels natural, don't let others hold you back. I'm straight, but I'm not going to go screaming down some gay guys throat that he should only date women. Christ.

Leo... https://in.linkedin.com/mpr/mpr/shrinknp_400_400/AAEAAQAAAAAAAATvAAAAJDUyMjY0OGI2LTRlZjMtNGVjYS04YzdhLTg4MmQ2YmE5YjAxNQ.jpg

Kind of figured something was up when I had a crush on my female friend back in the 4th grade. Later on I ended up dating a girl for a while, cuz we were like curious if we actully into girls. During that time I ended up realizing I fucking love kissing this chick and I kinda wanna go further. The way she smiled made me feel like I should protect her.