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Would you date someone with a bad history/emotional background?

oneman
"I'm not dumping my emotions, just truths that others should be faced with." This is prolly the one statement I can agree with. We all have our issues. However, the rest is self-serving garbage. There's no attacks, if there is, don't whine and bitch about it. If it is so bad that it is a legal thing, get authorities involved. I am truly the most egalitarian person here. I don't judge people upon appearance. I may request for an appearance for a person whom I may ask for romantic interest, but never do I use it to judge their character. You can be beautiful as you fucking want, and I might not date you if you're a feminist cunt. You could be moderately cute, and best the best damn women ever, if your personality is soothing, kind and empathetic. Which are FEMALE qualities. Real MEN don't want women to verbally show them up, because women demand men to be aggressive, without demanding of their own selves to be what their man wants. This is unequal and sexist on the part of WOMEN. A couple should be willing to sacrifice things and compromise to make each other better, and a massive bunch of you don't even comprehend this basic fact. I may not have dated anyone. Yet that is due to some legal issues that prevented me from doing so. Now that I have the availability AND enough emotional stability not to drag people down in my issues, I decided to go outside of my comfort zone and make myself available. I'm not going to deny things. A) I am a sociopath. B) I am a sociopath because I have met and been around wonderful people, only to see them get hurt by other people unfairly for no good reason, just because they chose to continue caring for me. So yeah, I do get a little sociopathic joy at others' pain. C) A good woman knows how to heal wounds that cannot seemingly be healed. D) I CHOSE not to pursue it for a while because I felt a woman deserves not to get dragged down by my problems, so I waited until a much more appropriate time to do so. I am a person who has experienced many awful horrible things. Yet I am also a person who has to live with the damage I've caused as well. My point is not to garner sympathy but rather honest ground. I search for the woman who is my shelter, because that is my definition of happiness and love. Which we all deserve, regardless of WHAT we are. WHAT we are does not determine WHO we are. So megitsune, if you're willing to put aside your own hurt and delusions, I am more than willing to start a friendship with you. We're both broken, with many responsibilities placed upon our backs. Don't worry about me hitting on you though, because even if you are physically beautiful, I won't date or even hit on someone with an abhorrent feminazi personality such as yours. I may have my own personal damages, but I never try to weigh anyone down with it, and instead try to build up those I'm around. I am no saint, but I am no fool either. I know I have a repulsive personality, and unlike you, I don't blame people who don't deserve it. You deserve what you get because you get aggressive. Ignore Midas' view because he doesn't understand the basic difference between passive-aggressive and flat out overt aggression. Which you are the latter, not the former. Yet I can understand that rage, because I feel it. I feel the rage and hate of other people, because everyone looks the same to me. Grey blobs with the word "murderer" labelled on it. Worst of all, I'm not even wrong in that regard. People will donate to hospitals, not ever giving a care as to their practices until it is too late and it actually affects them. They'll donate to the hospitals that will eventually kill their loved ones quicker. They'll continue to hurt and alienate people. Worst of all, parents will abandon their own children, wives and responsibility. Making their children feel alone, and will go out of their means to get attention. Such as say, as a teenager in the 80s, smoking underage to feel like they belong with someone. These situations (a testament to my late old man's life) are horrid, and evil. These kinds of societies created people oblivious to their own evils. You know what I do though? I don't act like a victim. I bide my time. I manipulate communities into fighting and killing each other, maybe one day hoping they'll recognize their mistakes. If that doesn't work, manipulate an idiot to the top office. Bide your time, and if you feel like men are treating you badly, make laws that make BOTH sides feel equal and happy. Ones that make everyone smile rather than make each other want to tear out each others' throats! It is the duty of those who suffer to ensure those who have not, do not. Quit playing the victim and grab a hold of your life damn it!
jtibbs
"I am truly the most egalitarian person here." Self proclaimed... Also her account is disabled. So she's not likely to respond.
oneman
Leave it to the personification of passive aggression to falsely call someone out. A true egalitarian is the one who gives and provides the most equality. I do that very thing, whereas you do not. I don't see differences in color and sex as a determination of one's character. No I judge a grey blob's character on their actions. Tell me, what do you have to contradict me? Oh wait, NOTHING. That's right. Just like other males of this day and age, nothing but empty talk.
jtibbs
And what evidence do you have that you're the most egalitarian person on the website? You're saying things we have to take at your word. Thats what self proclaimed means. You're basically saying you're the only one who doesn't judge people at all, yet you unfairly accuse me of not being fair towards other people. You don't even know me, you have no right to make that judgment towards me. What about all the other people on this site that haven't shown malice or disdain to other people? You've put yourself on a pedestal above everyone else. Thats egotistical. " Just like other males of this day and age, nothing but empty talk" This statement here is an unfair judgment made against the entire male sex. You've completely contradicted yourself.
oneman
Simple. My evidence is in the way I write. I make it pretty damn clear with my actions and the way I talk to all of you. I don't just use words, I use words to portray the fact that I am equal opportunity. Hell, I even made it clear how I see people. People even called it sociopathic. Once again, you mislabel things. Putting myself in a pedestal is not applicable to those who reach the top of the mountain. I accuse you of not being fair because you decided to run your mouth. If you had kept your post from happening, this wouldn't be a problem. If you don't say/do stupid shit, you don't get negative consequences. Yet since you decided to call me out, you really can't expect a polite reply, now can you? Negativity breeds negativity. I don't need to know you either. I know exactly how you are based on how you behave. What you say on the internet is going to be remembered and archived. Quit pretending like how your behavior on here has no consequences. And yes, the concept of "Just like other males of this day and age, nothing but empty talk" is valid, based off of evidence from my past. So no, this is entirely fair, and as usual, millennial idiots like you believe that just because you say something, it is automatically assumed to be true. Quit spreading misinformation FFS. Admit your faults and move on. I mean, FFS I preach my gospel on here, saying things such as "both sides are the problem" and telling people the importance of equality in relationships. I give women and men the same equal vitriol. That is egalitarianism. The idea that people are treated equally without giving regards to race, color, sex etc. I don't judge actually. I give out appropriate punishments for appropriate misdeeds. Don't even try to spin it as ego. I am entirely the opposite. I don't see myself as a person who exists. Just some carcass of useless flesh that cannot wait to be fed to the buzzards. It is this non-existentialism that gives me fairness. I am a person who gives out what life demands. If you kill someone, I'll make sure to volunteer to be the lawyer to ensure your execution, etc. I've made my lifestyle off of a pile of men and women who couldn't f-ing hack it in life, with empty promises. I don't judge, I simply dispense what life demands. No person is infallible. Not even me. That is why I don't do stupid stuff and say pointless crap and don't call people out online. I only enforce the concept of cause and effect. I have the evidence, and the problem you have is a cognitive dissonance with a person's word. Which I can't blame ya. You're a worthless skeptic with no backbone, so you lash out at people. Truth be told kiddo, I always try to avoid lying whenever possible. Yet since I don't even enter those situations, I can proudly say I don't tell lies. Last but not least, even if I WERE to place myself on a pedestal,only those who can't interpret my actions and words properly will interpret it as conceit and egocentrism. I have PLENTY of reasons to do so, and quite frankly a nothing individual like you who hasn't even SNIFFED the top of the mountain cannot understand those who have reached it. Probably more important, is the fact I carry myself the way I do because it would be a disrespect to those who gave me an unparalleled education. So screw off you bloody hypocritical sod. Then again, I suppose an ant finds the concept of a God ludicrous.
jtibbs
This response feels fanatical and off tangent. You seem like you worship you own way of thinking. You can go ahead and think what you want. I haven't said anything to anyone on this site that would be damaging to them in any fashion. Clearly I've poked your ego by pointing out your self proclaimed "most egalitarian person here" comment, if that upset you I apologize.
marcus_kolvador
Oneman, take a step back. Take a breath. I understand where you're coming from, but your posts are full of generalizations and coming off as bitter. If something is 'valid' because of your experiences, it does not mean it is an absolute. It is only an interpretation based on your your experiences. On the same logic, just because in your experience, you are the most egalitarian person here, it does not make it an absolute. Just as possible it is that you are, there is always a possibility you may be wrong. You have to agree on that based on logic itself. I'm sure that's all that Midas was trying to point out. Going at each other's throats like that won't get you guys anywhere. No need to fight, life's dramatic enough by itself ;)
rebellion
I'm a little hesitant now after getting badly burnt by several people in my past but I'm not the type of person to turn someone away with emotional and psychological scars regardless on how badly I was treated and tossed aside. What hurts the most is never being good enough and realizing you can't save someone from their own darkness and if you venture too deep into the abyss it either takes you down with it or violently push you out and in the process reopening your own scars and potentially earning new scars, deeper scars, fresh and painful scars that you have to deal with on your own when you mess things up (and sometimes, it may not be your fault how things turned out but doesn't change the fact that you're hurt from this) I had to learn that true suffering is experience alone no matter how much you want someone to care, how much you want them to care.
hakutaku
Don't fight you guys~None of you is the most egalitarian person on this website, what a pity( ̄~ ̄)...because evil demi-goddess Enki stole this title to boost her reputation among mortals so that she could retrieve her power earlier and go back to the celestial city₍₍ ◝(・ω・)◟ ⁾⁾.
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