If I'm dating someone who is cheating on me am i going too far if i do this to her

i would have left her...if its my place kick her to the curb, if not calmly get my shit and leave. no need to show love nor sympathy for someone who didnt show either toward you. cheating on her back really doesnt make any sense. anyone who even stays faithful to a cheater is an idiot, getting back at them doesnt change the fact that they cheated.

Well trying to take back gifts is a little petty, so I wouldn't do that. For me I would have to ask myself what the reasoning was for her cheating..was he providing something I wasn't/no longer continued to do? I know a lot of times some think that because they have the "Girl" that courting her is no longer needed...when in my opinion it is. Sometimes if you don't court/wine and dine your woman, making her feel special..then another man will. Was she growing past me? Did I stop progressing while she continued to advance? Do I sit around and do nothing all day? Or did she simply fall to lust and temptation? Or maybe there was no reasoning behind it at all(Which is the case at times). Now in the event that something I wasn't doing was part of the reason for her stepping out..I would take that and learn from it and make sure that it's something I work on..for the next woman. These are things I'd ask myself and try to figure out before anything else. Not everyone who stays with someone who is unfaithful is an idiot imo. Everyone is different and people do fuck up, people can also change. I personally wouldn't, however I wouldn't let them stepping out overshadow their good qualities. With that said if I were with someone for let's say 10 years..would I really want to end things over that? I'm not too sure on that. As for her leaving the house, I wouldn't grab her stuff and throw it out. I'd let it be known that the relationship is over and give her time to move out. Don't be a pushover though..be firm and show that you have some conviction/maturity about the situation. Now if she decides that she isn't leaving, then you can legally have her removed. I've always viewed cheating as a learning process for both, especially if the bond was strong. One persons learns what they don't need and the other person learns what not to do next time. That's just my 2 cents Cloud ^^

Been there done that. I tried the nice approach and that failed, as you'd expect. Then, I became anot ass who wouldn't deal with ANY bullshit. Guess which worked? She's gone and has absolutely no reason to even consider contacting me, I made damn sure of that. I moved on, found a woman who truly shows me love and respect and I'm getting married soon.

I'd probably do the same if I was in your situation. If I had a girlfriend who lives with me at MY place cheated on me, I'd tell her calmly yet seriously to pack up her things and get out. So, I think you made the right move, but you could've acted calmer.

God damn, at least organize your thoughts clearly if you are going to make a post like this <.< but yeah just leave her, no reason to make both of your lives a living hell because of it, you just didn't meet her needs and she doesn't meet yours, it shouldn't become personal, just move on and get it over with.

And wanting to destroy her gifts and other shit, that is just pathetic of you. I don't think I even need to explain why. -_-

I agree with shadower. Where I put my own two cents in it if she doesn't leave on her own then yes there is the legal option but you can also wait until she leaves, this is only if she refuses to leave after you tell her that she's no longer welcome, venue get all of her stuff and put it outside of the door and lock the door. Might be a little difficult if she has a key to get in but there are ways around that. P.s. Before locking her out you should make sure that you give her a deadline to move out and let her know that she doesn't leave willingly by then she will not like what will happen.

Pull a Negan and smash that bitches face in with a baseball bat. Or, simply break up with her and kick her out. That works, too.

Kicking out is actually legally harder than you'd think. For instance, me and my ex were on a lease together and I couldn't just just make her leave. She left because it was just awkward, not to mention I started dating and having my fiancée over around two months after we broke up. My thing was, I had a hard time not bringing up past anger, even though we were not together. It eventually rubbed her the wrong way and she left, but was nice enough to continue to pay her half of the rent (She did agree to it after all and at least stuck with the agreement like an adult...ish.). My point is, you can't force them to leave, even if it's you're own house and even then you have to give them thirty days to get out (Depending on state laws.). Even when I used to rent a room, they couldn't just kick me out (Unless I was somehow a threat or just fucking up their house.) without thirty days notice. Sometimes,you just have to be an adult and deal with the situation until things get better. It's always best just to set ultimatums at that point. For instance, my ex had until the end of our lease to get her stuff out(around six months), she didn't get everything and it was not my responsibility to hold her stuff until she was ready or return it once the uformentioned alloted time was up, even storage facilities won't give you back your stuff once your lease is up. Actually, that's what eventually got her to stop talking to me, I got pissed that she wasn't getting her stuff out and I even gave her an extra month. Be amicable, if you can and just know that it's done.

That's legally, yeah, but if she doesnt, you can drive her home life crazy til she does leave! :p On a serious note though, Asshat is right, plus there are other laws and stupid shit like that. you can tell her to leave and hope she doesn't know laws. If it doesn't work, gotta deal with her until lease is up or leave yourself.