Dating Someone with a Fetish

Basically every one here is bound to have a fetish and be able to accept others that have one. Except maybe the teenies with accounts on here -_- But in the real world its more likely to find someone less likely to accept that about you. I have some "Fetishes" That arn't too big a deal but I still conduct myself in a very vanilla way until I think the person I'm with is kinky enough that they won't judge. The best way to do that is to introduce it to your partner without them knowing that's what you like and see what they say. For example if you are already sexual or talking about it. Bring up porn and see what they watch. Of course they will pick something semi normal. Then subtly be like "Oh well what do you think of this kind of porn" Is what I usually do. Or if your comfortable with each other make it a game. "Nah I'm pretty kinky I like to nibble on your ears while..." and you go up from there. They should catch the drift and start showing more of their kinky side doing the same as you putting their fetishes out in the open. I don't understand previous comments. Are you saying vanilla ppl can't have fetishes? If so I might be a rare exception. Also the definition of fetish vs sexual preference seems off to me. I have what I consider to be fetishes and I consider them "Fetish" because they are considered (weird) out of the norm. by public standards. I can have enjoyable sex without my fetishes and still finish. While my sexual preference which is just me being the one in control is what determines how fast or even if I finish at all. O_o

I have a friend on here who has rather extreme fetishes when it comes to porn (he's a virgin though). I like talking to him because no matter what I'm into, his interests are way more extreme so it's easy for me to be open with him. I'm also jaded enough not to be shocked by anything so he knows I won't judge him either. When I described myself as mostly "vanilla", I just meant that most of my interests/fetishes are pretty mainstream and conventional by societies standards.

@Kurosora, lol. I've actually only had a few serious relationships and a handful of casual ones that never got to an intimate level. But I sometimes co-host workshops with a friend of mine who's done a lot of various work in the sex industry about how to have safe, kinky sex and I read several kink blogs and like to keep abreast (huehuehue) of the latest sex toys and products. I'm one of those crazy people who thinks sex feels good and is good for you~ https://kgen2001.files.wordpress.com/2014/01/boa-hancock-cute-hearts-blushing.gif?w=620

none of my exes have had any fetishes really except for one was into DD/LG which I involved in our relationship since I have tons of fetishes she was fine with lmao

@loli_vampire: Is Fetlife just a place where you can list fetishes, just like myanimelist? I never heard about it, but yeay it's the internet nothing suprise me anymore. @cinnamoon: You are the first person I saw who is this honest about sex.

The person that's dating me would already know I'm a pervert, but how much of a pervert would depend on how much of a pervert they are. I try not to creep them out. XD But if I was asked, I would tell them. Though my main fetish is getting to know what my partner's fetishes are. XD

@kurosora97, fetlife is a singles site like here but with various fetishes being the main theme instead of anime. But it means you have to be willing to be open about what you like.