is it harder to get a girlfriend at 30+?

Huh... Guys who message mostly female members and always new female members. I mean, it's not like at least one or two of those people are commenting here...

Outside of sites like this it's honestly not that hard to find people to date. The problem lies in finding people you can connect with; especially if your interests happen to go outside the norm (particularly if you're like me and live in the deep south where "muddin' an' fishin'" is probably the most popular pastime). My aunt is a huge anime fan and she got divorced in her mid-30s, but just re-married about a year ago; so it's not like you can't find other people later on in life. Heck, I have an uncle who didn't really date much at all until he was in his late 30's (he was way too picky). My main problem is mostly that I'm already not huge on the idea of having kids (I've always said that I prefer to adopt if anything), and most of the women that want to date me usually have a kid or two for some reason. I'm not entirely against dating women with kids, but I generally try to avoid it because I dated one mom who came on WAY too strong, to the point that it seemed clear to me that she was looking for somebody to "bail her out," so to speak. I also dated a girl in college who bamboozled me out of around $200 that she claimed she needed to help pay bills. So anyway, be it right or wrong, I'm naturally suspicious of anyone that might have a reason to try and take advantage. Short Answer: Yes, it is probably a bit harder, but not nearly as bad as some might make it out.

I find that it's harder only in the sense that it was easier to meet new people when I was younger (I'm 28 for reference I guess) Like there's more opportunity to meet new people through classes, social activities, summer jobs, that sort of thing. But now I'm in grad school where you see the same people for the next 4 years and then I've been at my job for the past 10 years, friends are still the same no more and no less, so if I want to meet someone I have to actually put in the effort. It's not like it's impossible or even that it's super hard, it just means changing how you'd do things a little bit :p

It can be a little trickier because we are busy with life's responsibilities like xueli said, less opportunity. The eligible pool also shrinks as people get married or too jaded to have relationships or are just not attractive. I do a little better than the 35-40 year-old's I know (me=40) who are single/divorced but I worked to not have a dad-bod and learned not to project my past bad relationships on new ones. You have to put in a little more work sure but not impossible. OP I live within spitting distance of your city and you can get girls there endlessly. Most of my GFs the last year have been from P-town. My mom just remarried at 77 and says it's never too late for love. Men are a little more advantaged the older we get due to maturity/experience and more stable finances typically. @shawnji - I know what you mean about watching your back and desperate single mothers, watch out for those but there are really cool ones too, depends on the persons attitude. Last year I had a woman try to sperm-jack me for cash and prizes; caught her stealing the condom out of the garbage. Some women I went on first/last dates because they wanted to get married in 6-12 months or else as looks were fading and biological clock was ticking loudly. That's fine as they were honest with what they were looking for; no one likes their time being wasted. If you do not want kids get a Vasectomy, my doctor stopped trying to talk me out of it after 30. I kinda put it off thinking maybe the universe would change my mind about kids. After the fiasco last winter however I may buy myself an eclectic present lol.

@DarkuSchneider I have considered vasectomy, but there's still a part of me that thinks I might actually want to have kids later on down the road. I think if I hit 40 and haven't had it done by then, I definitely will.

Siru, That's just called the realization of getting old.XD

Stay social and its actually much easier because everyone our age is getting more desperate to find the love of their life so they can start a family before its to late.