I feel stuck in a rut

I've been generally happy all summer up until recently this weekend when my friends were all gone on vacation and so my brain being the scumbag it is decided to think about every little thing to stress me out. I had work literally all weekend except sunday when I went to a concert (that kinda helped) but really it sucks I been supper stressed lately and just frustrated with life. It seems like all go a couple months of being happy and then a couple days of being totally pissed off lately and I don't know what to do. I'm a bit better now just kinda neutral about the whole thing but still if anyone has any advise or encouraging words it would be greatly appreciated. this weekend I was mainly stressed about: work being to much and hating my boss, what I'm gunna do when school starts again, and of course the whole no girl no relationship issue that I've been dealing with for years now. just so everyone knows what was going on.

Hello there :) ive been feeling slightly the same lately and I've talked to my friends and i have been told to calm down and try distressing. Talking to friends might help. And work and school do tend to get stressful. I don't really think of school until it gets here. For me it helps. Or i take a nap .3. naps are nice. With the whole job thing, who actually likes to work XD but at least you get money, right? Find something you like to do and do it. Lately I've been making beaded bracelets for people to buy. People don't buy them i get upset but then i get to look cool with em >D make em jelly! Or if ya want you could talk to me :D I like talking to new peoples .3. im pretty fun to talk to.

My solution to the whole "being single" issue is to look on the bright side of it. Every date that I would have gone to would be at least one volume of manga I couldn't afford. Every dinner date would be about one season of anime I couldn't afford, and over the course of time, it would pile up to a convention or two I couldn't go to because I spent my money on a significant other. Conventions are the only times I can actually talk to people who share half of my interests, so going to them is quite important to me. I'd have to have a list of excellent reasons to be alright with missing one for someone else. As such, being single has been feeling like a good thing lately, at least until I can find a girl relatively close who shares those passions or will go with me to a convention. Being single also means not having to worry about someone else's emotional baggage, so it saves quite a few headaches from the dating experiences I had with my ex. Yes, being in a relationship can be wonderful, but being single can be equally wonderful in different ways. They're just harder to find until you aren't single anymore.

I've felt the same way frequently. Lately, it hasn't been too bad. Maybe you and I are switching slightly. I dunno, I'm not making much sense I guess haha...

oh hey hirako I think your an admin on the facebook page now if you didn't notice. XD I understand being single can be fun but honestly it has been to long keisanki believe it or not I have not had a girl friend ever I'm 20 man. I've been on plenty of dates but I'm picky and I usually don't try to settle for less then what I want or I should say give up who I am to make people like me but it seems like more and more it would be so much easier to find someone if I wasn't the nice guy or even just did stuff like drink/smoke/cuss witch I do non of. I don't want to have to change to get a girl I just want a girl who likes me for me. and ya a con seems like a great place to meet girls or even just people in general that I could get along with but I really can only go to fanime and that only comes around in the fall :P

Sorry to be off topic soulxevans: I did notice. That's just for the "Like" page right? I don't think that carries over to the group page. Then again, maybe it does, unless everyone can invite friends once they're a member. I dunno, I haven't modded or admined a Facebook group in a long time. Anywho, I understand the pickyness because I'm the same way! Though I am thankful since a certain MO user is my ideal woman! ;) She knows who she is!

And what you've just said is basically the exact same for me. The only difference is I haven't gone on anything you could remotely call a date, as the only girlfriend I ever had was more in love with having a boyfriend than she was in me, and her stepmother was over-the-top overprotective. It might seem redundant to say her stepmother was excessively overprotective, but considering that after we broke up, her stepmother tried to put a restraining order on the next guy to come around (who wasn't all that bad). Apparently I avoided that fate because her stepmother liked me, but she sure didn't show it. Anyways... I understand it being too long (it's been 2 years since I've found anyone remotely close to date-able myself). I'd say about 70-80% of my classmates are drunks, druggies, jerks, etc. and there aren't any decent women around who are accepting of anime and whom I'd consider dating (there might be 5 women in our anime club when everyone shows up). I actually had a girl who was pursuing me start avoiding me when she found out I liked anime, which made me laugh after I got over the discouragement.

that's what I like about this site everyone is about at the same level of geek where I can feel comfortable talking to everyone if it's a girl I'm interested in or a guys I want to be friends with to bad the girl to guy percentage on here is a huge gap. I'd really like to find somebody at a con I think that would be the best for me but I'm kinda shy. I try my best to play the awesome confident guy but I think a lot of the time it just comes off as the uninterested I'm to cool for everything guy and I think that makes girls think I'm a dick when I'm a really sweet dude. Of course I just act like my self all the time :P so Idk what that means

Haha, I see that "I'm too cool for everything" attitude all the time. They usually end up leaning up on a wall tapping away on their phones. We call that the "Where's my friends?" mode lol.

The only improvement to cons that I can think of is if it it was easier to go up to someone, meet them, and be friends even after the con is over. I know I can walk up to pretty much anyone at the cons I've been to and talk to them, but it's something else when you can stay in contact for quite a while. That alone would make me feel so much better, and probably increase my chances of finding a decent girlfriend by a ridiculous amount. It would help if I was more comfortable just going up to people, be it on here or IRL, but whatever. I'm working on it. As for confidence, I went out, picked out a set of clothes I thought looked awesome on me, and wear an anime necklace for otaku pride (and anyone who comments on the anime is quickly made a friend). It's mostly just so that I feel awesome, which helps in regards to confidence. Then it's just a matter of showing that I'm really into the things I'm passionate about so I don't come off as someone who is too cool to care.