Sensitive is Weakness, Says Who??

Well, I'll agree with a few people here. Sensitivity can be a weakness, absolutely. But I do get what you mean, where its drilled into our heads as males to not show our emotions. To not let those emotions out but to bottle them up and be super macho. Just like woman are expected to do the opposite and so on and so forth. I'm a pretty sensitive guy. Well, to an extent. When it comes to someone I care about, I am. And I tend to wear my emotions on my sleeve. Its the person I am. Does it mean I want to talk about said problems? Not necessarily. But you know the issues are there. And yes I get into my emotions, its just how I am. But I don't think that guys should be held to that kind of standard of always holding things in just because society says we have to. But I feel a lot of the stereotyping and standards and such like this, are primarily a problem here in the states. Even though we're supposedly so well advanced and multi-cultural and all this crap, culturally and as people, we aren't very advanced in thought. We still tend to think that things have to be a certain way. That a cute girl can't be with a fat guy cause she loves him. Or that a nerd can never be with a super model and they'll love each other. Or the physical attributes that we are trained to see as what we should be. Just like woman, as guys we're taught through tv, shows and all this other stuff that we also need to be buff and such as well. That we amount to nothing really if we aren't. And even girls will treat us that way. That we need to be perfectly built and yadayadayada. But... you really shouldn't hold yourself to societies standards, no one should. No matter race or gender. Be true to yourself. If you want to watch the notebook and cry, go right ahead. Thats you man. Just like anyone else should be how they are. Wether society likes it or not.

Yes, I agree, Lugexd. The hyper-masculine model that men are supposed to aspire to is kinda the opposite of being an authentic human, and it has really damaged both genders as a result. Not all men aspire to be stoic warmongering sociopaths. I'm a firm believer in masculinity, because lets face it, science has proven that men who are de-masculated have much less happy lives as a result, but by no means do I view it as a standard, and I neither expect, nor want to be judged for connecting with my emotions. I love things that warm the heart, and I'm not afraid to have my eyes water up when I do witness it. I'm not afraid to see or point out the beauty in life. Does that make me a wuss? Who cares!? I don't need to prove the size of my cod to exemplify that I'm a man. I know I am. And I have nothing to feel self conscious about. ;)

when your a kid its cool to be strong and feel no pain. when you get older thats pretty dumb. unles your into being buff, less people will mess with you.

There's a difference between being sensitive, and being empathetic. When someone says sensitive, I think someone who's melodramatic. When someone says they're empathetic, its more like okay, that's something everyone should be. I'm a pretty reserved person myself. But in everyday life I do generally exhibit a polite, masculine persona but I have a personality that can best be described as a very stand your ground-type person. I don't back down from what I believe and don't compromise or filter myself very often because I think that's detrimental.

The way I see it, Empathy and Sensitivity are indeed two different things, but they both go hand in hand. Empathy is your ability to relate to and regard other human beings, and sensitivity is your ability to be vulnerable with them. Clearly, with sensitivity, there is such a thing as going too far. There is opening up and revealing that you are a human with some problems under the surface, which really does take a lot of strength and trust, and then there is being downright pathetic and expecting the world to give a damn. Clearly the latter of which is commonly because you have too much sensitivity and completely lack empathy. Although bare in mind, the way I see the world is not necessarily how the world has to be defined. Its merely how I provide context to my points of view. I would also like to note another thought that I remembered from studying anthropology and sociology. That being the backwards notion that co-dependence is a bad thing, when in fact, thats actually how humans are evolved to behave. It is important to note though that in a codependent relationship, both parties should clearly be offering something. But (And its Ironic that I, a mildly hermetic introvert who relishes in being alone am saying this) our society's obsession with independence and shaming of codependence is likely one of several reasons why here in the 21st century, psychological problems are so abundant. Its ass-backwards. And of course our diets, lack of sleep and proper exercise, and exposure to colorful and flashy advertisements don't exactly help, but I do think a lot of our problems could be fixed if we acknowledged this and relented to a middle ground between independence and codependence.

Being sensitive is a sign indicating that your heart is good. If people call you a big baby cause you start crying over chick flicks or somebody who liked in your favorite anime just died then don't bother with them. Though not everyone is sensitive. There are people out there who have a good heart but yet don't show emotion sometimes cause they just don't want to. But no. Being sensitive doesn't make you weak. :3 As long as it's not over something small. It is bad to be over emotional sometimes too.

also to note, any time i open this thread and see tomoyo crying, i think of all the scenes... and how that anime destroyed me for like a good week. T.T cruelty here.

yall are free to believe whatever yall want, but in my opinion sensitivity is a huge weakness for myself. As a child I was very sensitive, but growing up with poverty and crime will build this on you, most of yall wont understand this cuss your reality was different than mine, but you cant go through life being sensitive at everything. Its ok to have emotional reactions to movies or shows, thats normal, but in the real world you cant survive being this weak. It doesnt matter if you grew up or live now in a more civilized place, because you will experience loss and pain in your life at one point, maybe you already have and grew a better person because of it. But you and I know life is a bitch, and its probably not gonna get any easier. If your sensitive, your gonna let your emotions take over you, your concerns, your fears. You fears will consume you and stop you from achieving what you really want inside your heart, something you know you are capable of doing but you are too foking sensitive to put in the sacrifice. I know this fear very well. I was always very fat growing up and was always ashamed of it, but as a child I always wanted to look like a DBZ character, in High school my sophmore year was the first time I was introduced to the gym for the first time, and I fell in love with it. But a couple of months in i severely injured my back, i could not walk for more than 5 mins without collapsing from pain, even sitting on a chair hurt my back too much. The doctor told me I would NEVER be able to do any physical activity ever again, if i put more stress on my back I could end up paralyzed, he offered surgery to help my back but even so he didn't guarantee my back would get better and that there was a chance the operation could wrong and i could end up paralyzed. So that option was out of the way. 3 physical therapists tried to help me but they all gave up on me.So here I was, laying on my bed, unable to do anything, nothing to live for, just dripping through life like a worthless piece of shit waiting to die. And I cried every day, i fell into a very dark place, i was depressed, but I hid it, i still managed to go to class and pretend everything was fine. And I let my emotions consume me, my fears over take me that this was it, my whole life was already over and I would never amount to anything to any of my dreams. I lost many relationships, friends, i had nothing. I hated my life and I could no longer live like this. So i deiced to let go, let go of all my emotions my fears and everything holding me back. I had to really sit down and think of my passions, my dreams, my life, why I stated working out, why did i do it? and it was more than just a hobby, it was about finding myself, who I really was, what made me happy, what gave me a purpose in life. And I had to really ask myself.... Is this really worth it? is this really worth my back? I could end up paralyzed and my life over... and you know what I said? FUCK YEA IT IS, I dont give a fuck anymore, I was ready to die doing what I love. My doctor gave up on me, my physical therapists gave up on me, even my family gave up on me, but there was one person who still had hope on me, and that was myself. Every single day, when I woke up and before I went to sleep i did my stretches for my back, I tried yoga, i did research on with people with similar problems and what helped them. I did everything and anything possible to help my back, I did this every single day with the hope that one day I will get better and be able to do what I love to do, and over time I could feel progress on my back. it took me over a year doing these stretches and dieting every single day, until i went to a new doctor and checked me up and gave the clear mark that I was able to go ahead and be able to start working out again. It was the happiest day of my life, all the pain, sacrifice, and suffering had finally paid off. I was ready to start over again and do it right, my parents still were scared of me working out, but it was ok because I had been on this journey by myself since the beginning, so i was very smart and accurate about my training, starting in my room only with a backpack filled with books to what I am today. I no longer fear anything or get scared by anything, i live for challenges, i live to overcome obstacles, and i learned to follow my inner intuition. Because in this world that is what you need, nothing will come to you easy and I guarantee you, you are your biggest enemy, your feelings and emotions are your biggest threat because that is what will put you down in this world, you must learn to not be so easy affected by your feelings. Learn to overcome pain and suffering because when no one believes in you, you must learn to believe in yourself. Now if you were able to read this far i salute you cuss i myself would probably never read this long as fuck post, and now the real questions you are sking yourself, why did this fgt just tell us this personal af story, the answer is i dont foking know neither, i started typing and i just went with the flow and threw everyhting in, but i still find it funny that you are still reading this lol, bruh you really have nothing better to do huh? well there you go thats my opinion, sensitive does make you weak, now let me go eat cuss im hungry af, gotta make more gains