A lot to think about?

I recently met someone on this site, and fell totally head over heels and everything. He's absolutely everything I've wanted in a guy and he's totally understanding and everything. The issue has nothing to do with the relationship or anything, but rather, has to do with me. I've had a bit of a bad history relationship wise that has shaped the way I practically live at this point. It's concerned me to a point, and I'm afraid it'll affect my relationship with this wonderful guy. So my first relationship ended terribly, basically, the guy called me a slut, and he cheated on me with another guy, and I was abused in the relationship as well. Why am I sharing this? Because I've been able to recover from that bad relationship. Although, during this period, a 'friend' called me a manipulative, self-centered bitch. It hurt, but not as much as what had happened earlier in my life. My second serious relationship was wonderful, and the break up was mutual, partially because card games, school, video games and comics took up maybe 75% of his life on a daily basis. I broke up with him because of that and I was also going to college. My third relationship was hardly any thing serious, and was more drama than it was worth, The relationship was terrible for me, I was never happy at all.

My most recent relationship, which I also ended (Wow, I like ending relationships? /shot) was good up until we got out of college, in which he and his mother blamed me for bringing down his GPA. That and after he continuously blamed me, asked if he was worth it. Between that and asking me if he should come to the hospital for moral support when I was being admitted into Crisis emergency room. I just don't want to let any of this affect me and my happiness with this wonderful guy. It seems to come around and haunt me though because I suffer from 'episodes' and they're just really really low points. Normally I'll be crying or generally irritable and upset. The guy from this site that I'm seeing now says he'll support me, but I want us to have a strong mutual support system and I want us to be able to have a healthy strong long term relationship. Any help on this? I mean, the only thing I can think of is don't let it affect me?

Be there for him the way he wants to be there for you. One of my biggest mistakes in every relationship I've had is that it takes both partners to make it work. I did all the work and no matter how supportive I was of whoever I was with, she never supported me back really. I could be wrong, but that's just one idea to throw out there.

Use your past bad decisions to help influence yourself into making your current decisions the right ones, repeating bad mistakes is an endless circle. take time to look at past mistakes and take your personal bias out as much as possible and try and have it influence your current choices. If he's an understanding guy he'll probably let you slide with a lot anyways.

I agree with both of them. Remember to avoid placing too much stress in the guys life. If being with you becomes nothing but downs it could turn him away. So try to balance the good times with the bad. That will keep the hope alive for both of you. And just simply relax there's no point in stressing over anything because in the end it only makes things worst.