Being too nice a bad thing?

Hmm, being Too Nice is both a good and bad thing. I can't speak for guys and gals in general, since everyone has their thoughts. The pros of being Too Nice was that it makes it easy for people to connect to you. To guys, a girl who is Too Nice may stir up their urge to protect or pamper them, or give the impression that they're someone who could get along with them (courtship green light?). For girls, a Too Nice guy is someone who is gentlemanly - it's a plus in their book. A nice guy is a desirable target in most online sites (especially avatar-based social media *cough*). No shit, they will jump on you like sharks to a slab of meat, it's scary. But.. The downside to being Too Nice is that a person may also come off as Passive, aka easy to take advantage of (personally experienced in my more naive years on a 'Real Friends' degree). For guys, a girl who is too nice can be easily influenced or persuaded. For girls, a guy who is Too Nice may be a warning flag. In a relationship, someone who is Too Nice to just about everyone can stir up envy... I guess that also applies to relationships with people in general. I have a friend who was hostile to anyone who tries to get close to me (under the impression that they may only be after what I can do, like.... uh, free art, etc.), though we had told xir off several times about it. Several times, it had blown up into a wild arguement that even I can't call off with the abuse of the Caps button and PM's. On a harsher tone, I am always skeptical about someone who is just Too Nice, as it may be a front, which was why I refrain from disclosing anything personal until the person starts to show more of xir's true colors.

As neet-one posted I also think it 'depends on the area you live in and the kinda people you're around'. Also when people are nice it dose seem many try to take advantage. However there are countless types of nice people out there.

Hihihi just take advantage of me, cause ask me and I would try to help anyways ^.^' But what you dont know, maybe I get happy if I was able to help you :D So win - win, no side effect :P Would I use my time for others? Ask my friends, pick just one doesnt matter Whats my conclusion for that reason? Being nice is never a bad thing, well of course I can guess a few members who wouldn't agree with that ^w^

No... Being nice is good. Don't be a dick head. You get good things also. You be a shit head, then that is not cool. Trust me, I'm nice all the time. Don't like to be a dick. Trust me, I can be really mean. I like being nice.

I think being too nice is good think but also bad think. But it depends on situations. Good sides of being nice is that you earn some respect toward other people and get a lot easier friends. And bad sides is that some people might use you (e.x. in class, someone doesn't want to clean a classroom and because you're nice, you'll do it. And their will leave you) or thinking that you might faking it. My point is that being nice is really a good think but you can't be always too nice in some situation. (Btw, sry my english. It isn't my native language xD)

I'm sure this has been mentioned before, but I just got done with a 10 hour shift of walking on concrete all day, so I don't particularly have the energy to read through five pages. But true kindness is active, not passive. When a guy displays passive kindness, he may come across as clingy, ineffective, and kinda a doormat, which isn't particularly perceived as a good quality. Where as active kindness tends to be more assertive, charismatic, and warm. Its a tough concept to wrap your head around, and hell, it took me a few years to properly understand this. Though trust me, compassion is truly a valued trait, both romantically and socially. And a good way to display it without coming across as passive is to challenge someone in a playful, warm manner. Be empathetic to the needs of others, but also be sure to assert your own needs as valid and equal to theirs. For example: Passive: "Are you hungry? I could make you a burger if that's alright with you. I mean unless you want something else." Active: "I don't know about you, but I'm hungry. I'm going to make myself a burger. Do you like burgers? Okay, I'll make you one!"

I live on a Naval/Marine base out here in Mississippi and I've gotten the chance to talk to girls and guys from around the U.S and that's one thing they all seem to agree on. Being too nice is a turn off is the majority consensus. I was actually courting an attractive woman here and she said I was too nice and I needed rap in my life O.O needless to say we no longer speak much. Anyway, it's kind of a thing here to be "tough" or at least give off that impression from working out and whatnot. Personally I don't think being too nice is a bad thing even if you get the short end of the stick. Stick to principles and what you believe.

There are difference between being nice and friendly. I believe that you should be kind and nice but not friendly. If you are friendly, only friendly people to you truly trust.