Are long term relationships slowling dying?

http://www.vanityfair.com/culture/2015/08/tinder-hook-up-culture-end-of-dating http://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/oct/20/young-people-japan-stopped-having-sex

Seems like it unfortunately. Divorce rates are sky high and it's the norm now for people to have casual flings with strangers. Getting to be kinda rare to find people who are happily married after 10+ years.

From personal experience long term relationships are hard work. Many different factors can alter it and it can be hard to keep it going if you are not happy. I think most people want them to work but you never know what is around the corner. Some work some don't. What I have been told is you are only responsible for your own actions. You can't make someone else do or say something the don't want to. Life is for living and enjoying. Do what ever makes you happy :-)

Yup it really became a rare thing. I know only 4 couples who are still in love since many years. And I know a few people lol Sometimes people just change more or less slightly over time and this could be already enough to let a relationship fail in different cases :/ But I also know people who regret it that they left their ex, so sometimes should a person maybe be a bit more tolerantly? ^.^' And I don't talk about betrayel, thats a thing which would tend me in direction to break up.

lenny82, I think that kind of mindset is part of the problem. long lasting relationships aren't 'that' hard, people are just lazy and drop out at the first speedbump. People care too much about themselves and only what they want. When people go into relationships only caring about themselves, neither will get what they want in the end and a split becomes inevitable. You have to think about what other people want/need sometimes not just yourself. If you want a relationship to work out sometimes it means putting the other person's needs ahead of your own. This country teaches people to be selfish, greedy, and to always prioritize #1 but I really don't think this is a healthy mindset. Whatever happened to being happy from making other people happy? This would be a pretty great world to live in if people would just drop their egos and their self centered bullshit and learn to be more considerate of their fellow man.

Neet-one, I agree, people now a days seem to focus on their own wants and needs. This is fine but not always if you want something long term. My experience of it being hard work is when it is one sided. Over time you start to wonder why you bother and get fed up with it all. This goes back to what you said about people being lazy and not making the effort.

What's really insane is how people can live a life of casual relationships and debauchery yet still somehow expect to have long lasting fulfilling relationships after all that. You can't eat your cake and still have it. These people are digging their own graves with their actions but can't seem to realize it, or they're so mentally far gone they think they're entitled to whatever they want in life and their actions have no consequences. You reap what you sow, and unfortunately for them by the time most people learn this it's already too late. Yes Tiger Festival, sociopaths are being pretty mainstream now and it's kind of sad, but what can you do?