why is it so hard to find love?

Best advice "stop trying to find it" in other words top looking for a relationship or dates even. I know it sounds cliche but it's what my friends were telling me to do no more then a week ago and now that I stopped caring I'm a lot happier. have I found any one? No but I have faith that I will but I'm not actively going out there and trying to get at every girl I see or even every girl I go out with. I have been on 2 dates with the same girl recently she understands I'm not really looking to make it anything serious and honestly I'm not really feeling anything with her. As I am right now I can be picky and people deserve to be picky when it comes to relationships but when you are worried about not finding anyone or are in a rush to get into something you stop being picky and that is not the best situation to be in. You end up settling for less then what you want and that usually leads to short unhappy relationships. Try to stop caring and just be friends with people if something is going to come out of it you will know and if you don't know all your friends are there/here to help you.

Another thing you can try if your feeling uncool with your body is working out. My motto is all body types can be cool it depends on how you work it or what you want. if you don't like that your a little skinny or in my case a little fluffy change it. I do push ups and sit ups every day now and try and play basketball or ride my bike as much as possible. Now that is not because I don't feel comfortable with my self I like my fluff it keeps me warm but I do things where I wish I was a bit more in shape and also I just want to be healthy it just happens to have the added bonus of being more attractive to most girls if I'm in shape. So if you feel like you need to change your self make it happen there is no one that is gunna do it but you. The only other option is learning to like you for you and that is up to you too. I know this was long but I hope it helped if you read any of it. stay cool.

What's funny is that I'm dating the guy who started his thread XD but, here's a bit of advice for those of you who are lovelorn, looking for love or anything else... Don't ever rush it. Go at a nice steady pace and see what happens. Especially when it comes to the L-word. Don't rush that one. What you may think is love one month into the relationship, could be annoying as all high Hell six months later. I hope very much that I get to stay with teisharo for the long term, he's wonderful. I also hope that all of you find someone who not only makes you happy, but is also willing to be there every step of the way for them, regardless of their situation.

Why thank you~ :) I still linger on this site cause I still have friends here who I keep in touch with via facebook and this site. All things aside, what he has said is true, we're always going to judge off of a picture, but don't ever be afraid to test the waters with anyone, ya know? I was only originally here to make friends actually , so yeah LOL look what happened now. xD

The site does work, at least for you young pups. My daughter met her soul mate on this site and is now married to him. I am impressed how good of couple they make!

Hey there catbus! That's so awesome, Congrats to your daughter! I hope that he's a keeper, I really do.