Nice guys finish last

one day a girl will talk to me because she is genuinely interested in me and not just because I am the only one in the office and she doesn't know how to fix the copy machine.

You never asked for advice. All you did was give us your sob story about getting "friendzoned". So of course you're going to get ridiculed.

ALRIGHT. THIS IS GOING IN A CIRCLE EVERYONE SIT THE FUCK DOWN I GOT THIS. *ahem* FIRST LET ME HOP OUT THE MOTH--jk First, I want you to forget about the words "nice guys finish last" and "friendzone" alright? Kindess extends a long way, but you have to know when to not cross the line. The line that goes into "kissing ass" territory. -Listen closely- Being "nice" isn't the glue/the flubber/the key to a relationship. It's communication, respect, working with each other to help each other become better people. Second, even coming for a guy who hasn't even gotten to the "flirting stage", you never really -look- for love. You can look for fun! But it's temporary. Actually, most of the time, people around their 20s are looking to just have fun, test the waters. But in your situation, serious relationships at such a young age are prone to ending because of your youth. People either get bored and want to meet other people, some are afraid of the idea of commitment. ~T

Tell me tell me young padawan, since you claim each one of your relationships ended similarly, did you catch any signs of conflict each time? ~T

And like Donnie said, one day a girl will like you because she perceives you as interesting, not because you gave her yellow flowers. ~T

And Donnie... We all know who is the true god 'round these parts. http://terezowens-com-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/2014/07/bruh.jpg

No each time it was out of no where and without provocation.. Most recently.. I had been engaged for 2 years to a girl whom ended up cheating on me with one of our mutual friends..See my fiancee is an ex/current marine.. and suffers from PTSD, was drunk, and and was from what I've been told of the story, both from her, and the person whom she cheated on me with.. She was having a panic attack.. The person she cheated with just happened to be there at the time while I was at the store..coincidentally with my phones signal out of commission at the time.. My fiancee was caught in a moment of weakness.. I forgave her for it.. and said friend is no longer a friend because of it.. My fiancee went off to Syria, and then Ukraine on military leave.. And I'd hear from her maybe for like 20 minutes once every 3-5 months...Time passed.. and I havent heard from her since September of last year.. I still love her of course.. and hope that shes okay....But my aunt is also ex marine.. and she told me no matter the circumstances, without exception.. Everyday they are given the tools and opportunity to contact friends and family.. and to not hear a word from my fiancee for nearly a year..I can only assume the following.. A. Shes cheating on me yet again.. B. She never cared about me to begin with and everything she ever told me was a lie.. C. A combination of the first 2.. D. Maybe something truly did come up and shes unable to contact me...or F...Shes dead... I deserve better than the first 3 explanations.. And sitting here waiting and never getting a response from her is extremely heart taxing.. I feel like I'm single because of it... and I deserve better than this...But anyway.. sob stories and shit out of the way.. all of my relationships have been like that... Just out of no where.. with no fault on my part.. just betrayal..