QuarterLife Crisis

@TySenpai - I am exactly the same, I can't help but compare my life with others and I see on facebook etc that some people have gotten married, had children, getting a mortgage on their houses. I also compare myself to my parents life - by my age now they were married and had a child yet I feel as though I am in stasis. The best thing I find is to set new goals and keep throwing myself into them on the hope I will find my way in life.

I've always thought it's best to not stack yourself up against others. Not everyone has to have incredible success. Besides, some people turn out to be late bloomers.

Eh, it is what it is. Everyone has a different path in life. I only have a two year degree I earned when I turned 25 and have pretty much worked retail since I was 16 and are now 35. I manage a GameStop, and while it's not glorious compared to a lot of others out there, for a single guy with no major commitments or debts, it's more than sufficient to live off of. I'd like a LTR but I'm still completely undecided on having children and still rent an apartment. While it's not building equity into a home, it allows me to not be be tied down to any one particular place either like purchasing a home would. I really don't have much desire to move at the moment either. Basically, don't sweat it too much. While you may only be 25 and have finished school but still working what you consider a low income job, there's plenty of people out there who haven't even done anything with themselves since graduating high school or have any aspirations that are higher than working a dead end job for the rest of their lives. Sure, it'd be nice to have more money, a nice house, getting married and starting a family (if that's a goal you have) but being in your current state is by no means a poor place to be either. Just work towards what you want do with your life and the pieces will fall into place over time.

I feel the exact same way about Facebook. It's either used for bragging, keeping up a facade, or seeking pity. Then you have the relatives on there who can't get along and pick fights. Or the people who think differently from you and passive aggressively post things that contradict other's lifestyles or beliefs. Facebook was so much more enjoyable when it was just full of college kids and everyone poked each other. When the hell did kids and moms join? In regards to the crisis, I'm going through that as well. Not only did I NOT want to do the job in doing now and have done for the last 6 years, but it's also dead end. I've recently decided to go back to school for a masters degree and get a bit further in debt so I can get a better job and get out of here.

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Very brave of you to open a discussion on this topic. Yeah, I'm also feeling that quarter life crisis. I see my friends on facebook getting married and having successful careers while I'm still juggling learning and a career. Generally though I think people of this generation are marrying at an older age and taking longer to advance in their career. Take solace in the fact that there are a lot of people dealing with the same things.

Yep, totes feel you on that. But I keep reminding myself that the 30s really isn't THAT old and seniors would laugh at you for thinking that. And you'll only be as old as you believe you are. So.. if you think you're old at 30, then you'll act old at 30, maybe let yourself go, and so on. I've met super adorable and lovely people in their 50s and 60s who enjoy life and don't think themselves as just 'old'. I look up to those kinds of people. And yeah, I had/probably still have the quarter life crisis mentality since I'm still not settled in a career or bought my own house or (-__-)... got married yet. What helps me is that I always remember that you never know what life will throw at you and life is what you make of it. If you want to hook up with someone, you'll have to put yourself out there. If you want to be happy, enjoy life now, no matter what you have or don't have. I understand it can be so difficult to think this way at times but sometimes you just HAVE to have an optimistic outlook on life and be happy now.