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toya
May 20, 15 at 12:56pm
I have this big crush on one of my coworkers. I asked her if she wanted to hang out and she said yes.. The thing is how do I act like a normal guy and not come off as a creep? I really want to get to know this girl better, but it seems like everytime I like someone it dosent end Well..
basedsempai
Just hang out with her normally without hitting on her should honestly do the trick. Also, don't take it as a date either, you guys are just hanging out. Be confident but don't be weird.
pocketto
May 20, 15 at 1:07pm
Take this "hanging out" as a way to get to know her better. Find out what she likes and then talk about that (but not prying to hard into stuff she doesn't want to talk about). Then talk about what you enjoy, starting with movies and video games. Try to see how interested she is in that conversation then talk about anime or crossdressing if you feel comfortable about it with her by that time. Is there a specific place you are going to hang out?
xueli
May 20, 15 at 1:24pm
Like everyone else, I can't stress how much to not get into the mind frame that hanging out = date. Not a date until both of you recognize it's a date. Just talk to her and hang out like you would with any other friend of yours.
soraphantomhive
What they said. Good luck man
invisibal
yes... http://i3.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/514/499/37f.png
arc
May 21, 15 at 10:09am
I sometimes struggle the same way as you do when I'm crushing on a girl. Just pretend that she is a guy dressed as a girl. Because you don't know the inner workings of a woman's mind, attempts at flirtation on the first outing with her will get you killed. Not literally. But you know what I mean. Trust me. I have a wing-girl that I text asking if ideas I think of are creepy. The answer is usually yes.
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trahecreations
Well for starters we would have to know country to figure out proper behavior as each country has their own terms of proper behavior in courting/dating/and befriending. But for the most part, treat her like a person, give her respect and let her pick things. You never know what a girl will want from you (or anyone for that matter) until you gauge their reactions. Example: I had a coworker who introduced me to her boyfriend. After he left she asked me if I thought he was hot. I said No and she got pissed until I told her. "He is not attractive for me. However that doesn't mean he is not a total hottie. He looks like he is a straight 10 on the hotness scale knowing you. I wouldn't date him, but I don't think he's ugly or a bad person." she liked that.
rainx
May 21, 15 at 9:16pm
I'm not a big proponent of dating co-workers, at least if it's a job that you genuinely care about or it's important for your career. Can't tell you how many times I've seen people quit or have major issues after relationship drama happens that inevitably flows through to the workplace. If you're deadset on trying though, as mentioned above, just be very casual and laid back. Talk to her about things you enjoy and ask her what she likes. Ask her some genuine questions about her family, friends, goals, etc. Just take a genuine interest in her and her life. If a girl is into you, she'll make an effort on wanting to hang out with you and talk to you and do the same.
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