Why is desperate guys/girls such a turn off?

I don't think it's so bad if you say you wanna date on this site, unless the guy is actively IMing people flirting with them without bothering to just get to know them first.

That's kind of weird to expect many hot guys on an anime site. XD I would think that most who come here just wanna talk about anime and stuff. I have noticed some girls post once and leave forever though, but I heard that some might be trolls. I notice the same with some guys too. I guess another peeve of mine with desperate people(both girls and boys) is when they do things that come off as "attention whoring". Things like baiting for compliments, faking illness, exaggerating problems, claiming to be the "nice guy/girl"(more like entitlement), excessive bragging(like "my !@#$% is this long"), etc. I guess not all of those have to do with desperation, though.

are we in desperate times? O.o ... we only have a small population around the world of a few billion. I mean not even mcdonalds has sold that many ... right?

I think desperation stems from neediness, since after all, why would you be desperate for something if you didn't think you needed it? And the problem with neediness is that they're looking for someone to magically make their lives meaningful. There are two ways people become needy. They either see so little value in themselves and externalized all their self-validation. They only focus on their self perceived flaws like a laser and never believe they have any good points. They want other people to constantly approve and praise them because they are not able to validate themselves. The other way is when people put too much value in others to the point of putting them on pedestals which is a form of objectification. You're not looking at the other person as an equal and that's just never conducive to a good relationship. Also it makes people nauseatingly clingy. Basically, desperate people are a shit ton of work as significant others because you gotta deal with their validation drama 24/7 and even then, they probably don't even like you as a person so much as they like the idea of a personal cheerleader who will somehow fix their lives

@xueli This totally. I've heard of some who were so desperate that they'd drag their partner down to extremes by being too clingy/possessive. A friend of a friend is apparently in such a relationship that they cannot break up with their partner because the partner threatens to suicide if they break up. @_@ I really don't know what to possibly advise that person because it's something I have no personal experience in, and don't want to feel guilt if the person was seriously suicidal. I can't know if they are seriously mentally ill, or bluffing out of desperation. >.<

@Kohagura, it sounds like your friend's friend is in a hostage situation. The partner is seriously holding that person hostage with emotional manipulations. I've been in the situation of having a friend be in a toxic relationship where the guy threatened suicide. Honestly there's not much your friend can do. The person know what kind of person the partner is, no amount of nagging is going to pressure them into breaking up with the partner until they're ready. I would say, just be the friend that they undoubtedly need and be as non-judgemental as possible. Keep them busy so that they have something else to think about other than the partner and just remind them that the other person isn't their responsibility. If your friend's friend does dump the person, immediately all their friends need to go nuclear option on the person and block all the avenues that can put the clingy one in contact.