Why is desperate guys/girls such a turn off?

Oh that's an easy answer. Because you miss that "journey" of falling for them. If they're easy, they kind of all ready fell for you or vice versa and you don't experience that click when you realize you want to be with that person for who they are. It seems cheesy, but that's my interpretation, and that click is very important to me

well, because they don't take time to talk to someone and really form a bond with that person instead they go straight to a deeper relationship than friendship even if you don't talk directly to each other it's good to talk in group chats so you basically know what the person is like (I guess.hopefully this makes sense) but I mean just take time and actually know what that person is like

The only time a desperate person would be attractive is to another desperate person. They also tend to make rash decisions.

I have an idea of why, it is as follows: see, it would appear that whatever your opposite sex is has a image of what is desirable, interesting, cool if you like, and to be attracted to someone i believe people think the person that would try to attract them must be in some way alluring, thus getting their attention. However, when it is someone not particularly on your radar, someone who is attempting to make themselves blip on your radar, can come across as "trying to hard" to get your attention. i am indifferent in this way of thinking what I'm saying now is not what i believe is or should be right however people socially have evolved to desire to be attracted to a potential partner in a more discreet way e.g. how they act, what interests they have, and if they are good looking, it is the sad superficial truth. On the other hand someone attempting to jump right in and try to "cut to the chase" [so to speak] by wanting your attention right away may seem to clingy coming from someone they may not even know as well as you may know as much as you do about them. i hope you find this helpful bryan, however i may be affected consciously as i ended up not sleeping until the grand hour of 7:00am so i may also be hallucinating that I'm even typing now, oh look a butterfly lets follow it.....bye ~N~

Some like desperation, like narcissists, it artificially elevates their false 'unattainable perfection' (puke). Seriously though... People who are desperate are sometimes seen as having little quality character, inner strength, self-esteem, or confidence. Men can't get away with this as much due to social norms and biological imperatives. Who wants a weak mate that can not protect and provide a nest and offspring? Who wants a mate that only wears masks to get what they want ie. not being genuine?

I'm going to say because they seem to target ANYONE who will say yes to them. They don't want the person they just like the image they themselves form. They dont try to get to know the person, and normally just go for aesthetics that they consider pleasing whichin turn becomes only a superficial desire that they base a relationship from. So the more desperate the wider the image of wants and needs will be, and the more people s/he will target. So yeah ... desperation ... no good.

I can understand people being desperate, especially guys and girls who really want to be with someone and there's nobody around to be with or if they meet someone they like and they're either not interested or are already taken. I've been in a state of desperation myself plenty of times before and yeah, it sucks especially if you're really picky on your ideal lover. But in time I just decided to slow down, take a step back and said to myself "You know what? I can wait. There's no rush for finding someone, just focus on other things that makes me happy." and yeah I've been single for two years now but I kept that mindset and things have been mostly pleasant throughout. As for other people who are desperate, it really depends - let's say if someone really wants to be with me and they're kind and friendly and I like them as well then yeah I can find it pretty cute. But if they are someone I don't particularly like for whatever reason then I honestly find them to be a bit of a nuisance, but I won't blow them off - I'll still talk to them, be friends with them and what-not but I'll make it clear to them that I'm not interested and just hope they get the message and understand. It's harsh but y'know - you can't force yourself to feel something for someone.

For me, it's because they tend to rush things, and tend to have some ulterior motive to wanting to get close to you. It's usually something like, "All my friends/classmates have lovers"(peer pressure/trendiness), or "I'm so lonely"(needs friends), or they just want to not be a virgin(experimental sex). Also, if they're desperate meaning they'd do it with anyone? Maybe they'll be really loose and cheat on you... Not saying they WILL, but, with some mentalities, it is more likely than not, especially if they don't need that strong bond or time to decide to get close to someone. It's just something that I believe needs to be natural over time with strong bonds.