I'm the Love Doctor; ask me anything

See the leather couch? *points* Get on it, ask me your love question, and you'll receive a 100% scientifically accurate reply.

I am open with my other half but he's not open with me and I feel like a fool when I am open with him and he's not with me. What's more embarrasing is that we've been together for almost 2 years and he doesn't wanna be open and expressive with me. I asked him why and he said "because it's not me"... what should I do?! >_<

I know im not the love doctor, but i'll give it a go anyway xP Some people are really reserved and wont risk coming out of their shells, there could be a number of reason; Fear of getting too close, Fear of abandonement, insufficiency, fear of loosing sight of ones own objectives in life and so forth, all in all it can more often than not be traced to a fear of getting hurt. Perhaps he was hurt before trying to open up to someone else, rejection and ridicule can really traumatize people who are "suffering" from being lovestruck. I'm afraid i cant provide a solution, but maybe you can get him out of his comfort zone by showing your own vulnerable side, tell him some intimate secret you are embarrased off, easing the pressure he maybe feeling. Also ask him about past relationships he has been in, find out if something went wrong at some point, and how it happened. Then again, some people are just really really shy about their innner selfs... I hope this can be of some help ^^

Okay, let me try this... there's this cute girl in one of my classes in college (yes, I'm back in college). But I'm too scared to make a move. Fear of rejection, perhaps? What do you think and what would you do in my place?

Maybe if we had some inside about how the girl is like. First of all what type of person is she? Why don't you ask other class mates that might know her. Or you could ask her for help on something about class to start a conversation. I guess is difficult to advice without knowing where you stand. I like to hear what other people think of her not you to avoid a bias opinion.

>Nov. 02, 2011 Not sure if trying to generate some traffic, or just trolling...

My boyfriend doesn't like talking much in general, but really doesn't like communicating when we have problems. Even after two years of dating he's hiding things, has to be drunk in order to tell me the truth or to talk about problems. Doesn't talk to me at all during the week and on the weekends he's always finding a way to visit late and leave early and he sleeps most of the time. I've assumed cheating, but I'm pretty sure that's not it. I've tried breaking it off only to have him beg me not to leave or he'll say he understands, but will still talk and visit me as normally as normal is for us. Not to mention a few other problems. I often feel that I'm the one working on the relationship and when I stop he gets mad at me. Anytime in general when I say my feelings he gets mad.