Becoming friends or lovers with other otaku is far more difficult than I had hoped...

I'm not here to complain or anything. I've been there done that lol. Anyway I always thought that becoming friends or getting a date with a fellow brethren would be alot easier than with someone who doesn't share nor understand my interests and hobbies. But for years and years my friends(RL) and I have been having difficulty on obtaining new friends or dates with other otaku. We all got the same treatment, they have social problems,their distant or cold or just make trying to build a bond a real headache, whereas people who don't share our interests don't make it difficult for us to talk to them. I'm basically saying is this, I suppose we're just better off not worrying about making friends or getting dates with other otaku, since for some strange reason they always make things extremely complicated when it doesn't really need to be. I've seen members on this site complain about how difficult it is to initiate conversations with them not replying to giving out weak one word responses and funnily these are the problems my friends and I deal with IRL. I understand having a hard time talking to people and whatnot, however I can only see that it can be hard to talk to someone who doesn't share your same interests, yet otakus seem to act this way towards other otaku as well, which I always find odd. My friends and I are friends due to our common interests and shared outlook and similar personalities and when we meet another likeminded individual they make talking an extremely complex puzzle. So my friends and I just gave up and we thought we should open up to even people who don't share our interests seeing that most of the time their the kind of people we seem to attract and they make socializing easy. So to everyone out there have you dealt with this sort of thing as well? To people out there who acts this way to other otaku why do you do this? This is something I've been meaning to ask for a long time and I finally got the courage to ask, even though there maybe some backlash as some would take this as an insult even though I'm not insulting anyone. I'm just wondering and came to this realization if all. I think I'm finally beginning to understand what Cantthinkofabettername and Jikokun were saying this whole time. Go figure.

In all seriousness, people make making friends more of a chore than it needs to be. There's no easy way to make a friend, especially if you've got anxiety problems, but you just have to put yourself out there and try if you want to meet people. Finding a girl/boyfriend, Otaku or not, doesn't happen magically. You don't just make a post saying "I can't find anybody" while at the same time not making an attempt... that's silly. It will happen if you allow it to, but you have to put forth the effort also. Thanks tiger.

Well...I think a lot of them are shy, so you just need to find the right topic. Some people will be generally quiet, and then you start talking about one of their passions, like writing or books or their favourite series, and they'll really latch onto it. Of course, there's always the possibility if they're friends of the opposite gender that they automatically worry that you're trying to chat them up and don't know how to deal with it one way or the other.

Agreed Manga. With people who are very introverted you can't force them to come out or they hide. You have to draw them out until they are comfortable with you or they are genuinely broken, but few Otaku are actually like that. Most Otaku are very intelligent and can be deep but the cost of admission is very high for some.

You cant, no, but in the same token then, you can't Bitch because you can't find anybody To be with. I'm very introverted, bit it's about getting over your fears if you want to find that happiness

I generally only have time to talk to people here that I immediately have something genuinely interesting to talk about. No one wants the chore of answering to, "hey, uh, so what's your favorite anime?" "Oh, that's cool." You bore them, and you bore yourself with that kind of talk. Applies to real life, too. Hope this helps.

From experience, I just tend to not really have much to say, let alone how to say things. There are times I ramble, but for the most part, I'd say I'm fairly blunt. Regardless, this doesn't mean I or other people like myself cannot hold an in depth conversations. But sometimes it is hard to just find people with similar thriving interesting to have a deep conversation with, let alone being able to find the 'one' you can freely converse with. It's just a matter of perspective as well as a two way street. It only takes one to break the ice but both sides to keep it from refreezing.

I stopped complaining about it a long time ago lol. I said it in the OP and I thought I mentioned that I usually bring up subjects of interest and to no avail as I said. While I know making friends isn't a cakewalk, I mentioned that my friends and I have gave it our 100% and decided to open to anyone regardless of interest. Take note my friends and I are introverted as well, but we get up and try and make things work and yet nothing does XD. We just had a talk about something we noticed amongst fellow,gamers,otakus etc. that they make talking hard whereas ppl who aren't make it far easier. Who said we were forcing them or not trying? I suppose some of you didn't read everything? :/ Nevertheless It was just something We've noticed and I wanted to make a topic about it to see if anyone else noticed as well.