Relationship/Feelings talk [all welcome]

So this is a thread based on feelings&thoughts about relationships Personally I feel like I will end up alone? but then again I'm not too frightened by it either. I'm kinda debating on it actually, I wouldn't mind being alone but then I would like to have a human companion of some kind. I'm not really social or outgoing and I actually prefer to be alone. My thinking is If I have a cat/dog I'd be fine. I'd have all the things I want and do whatever I want to without being tied down. One time I went on a date and after realizing halfway through it, I started to freak out because it was "date." I felt like I didn't belong there, that relationships weren't for me. Yet, if something does happen perchance and I do get into one, I don't know exactly what I'll do. I feel like I'd be the one breaking up with them because it would scare me. To be in a relationship that is. Thoughts on this subject?

You need to get over your fear. Take a chance and forget about all that. Take negotiable risks because you never know if it'll be the best or worse thing you never did. If you spend your whole life being afraid of one thing you'll never get over it if you don't try. Be yourself. Yes, exactly yourself. But be respectable. Have confidence please. I'm not exactly nervous or shy when it comes to guys because I spent my entire life being around guys. I love guys. I want to be a guy and a girl which is why I'm genderfluid. I know it's not as easy as it sounds but one day you will feel like you belong in a relationship. When you meet that person you love none of what you're thinking will truly matter.

@oniiai I really hope that's true, maybe I just took too far into things I think it'll get better in college, mostly because the school I'm in is way too small and people date who ever they can (there is literally about 180 kids in my school) Everyone knows everything and anything about everyone, so it kinda ticks me off and then people come to me with their relationship problems I have to watch this guy and girl in my study hall, who the girl he's dating gets put down emotionally and mentally, then I have to come home to my parents fighting I'm just really scared about all this tbh, and again, I think it'll get better in college

*hugs* oh bby ;n; from looks of it.. maybe dating in college would seem the best for you.

I sympathize with your situation, especially the parent part. "Everyone is getting married. Why not you?" (Because a divorce can cost more than a marriage? Look at your marriage, Dad) "Why are you still single? Go out and socialize." (That's not really how it works, Dad) "I'm sure there will be someone out there for you" (Sure. Wake me up when she's there ok?) The dating/"will I want to be by myself at 50?" thing never really entered my head till recently. All the while, it's all about job security, salary and career opportunities, with maybe a bit of studying. Guess ultimately it's because I keep running from that question; I tend to rationalize my fears, compartmentalize them into the 'not efficient and risky investment hence wasteful' box, and then shut it out. Not the most mature way I know. You aren't alone in this though; I think it's more worth it in the long run to question and reflect on these kind of things for a while than to approach it in a trial-and-error fashion (how many hearts will you break by then?)

You just do whatever makes you happy and not try to force things. i was in a similar situation as you before going to college but I craved companionship. I ended up spending college in complete solitude, but that's how things just happened. I tried to force things and nothing good came out of it.

It's strange, because after I posted this last night This girl from my school confessed to me about liking me She even wrote me a letter about her feelings and broke up with her boyfriend for me It's a strange feeling but I am proud to call her my girlfriend Is this what you would call fate/coincidence?