Why are pedophiles considered mentally ill?

And feeling that way towards someone who actually abused children is completely understandable, that is what i see as a molester, but i don't neccesarily see every pedophile as a molester. Some pedos haven't done anything, and people still feel hatred towards their existence by default. And no, we shouldn't be tolerant towards serial killers, but I am pretty sure that everybody at least once in their life have had the urge to kill someone at some time in their life. You said it yourself, you want to kill your aunt's ex husband. Should I hate you as much as a serial killer because you have the urge to kill someone? Because that's the logic i see in hating a pedophile with the urge, but who hasn't done anything.

i don't think people hate them until they have actually done something wrong, but because he came out, people no longer trust him or want to do anything with him because of the fear that he might do something, it's normal human nature

And i understand that it's normal to fear a potential danger, but completely cutting of all contact to the person because he has the potential to be a threat seems a bit extreme. Like mentioned, assuming you meant you wanted to beat your uncle literally to death, every human being is a potential danger, so should we just avoid all other humans completely? I get that the odds are a lot bigger with a pedophile than an average human, but i still think that they are treated too harshly. Even people who don't have any children yet want to avoid a pedofile. Why not wait until there actually is something to protect? I know that it will hurt as much, or maybe even more, if you wait, but I'd say the good times you could have with the person until he actually would become a threat would be worth it.

He knew the consequences and he decided to go public anyways so its on him.

I think that kind of mindset would encourage pedofiles to keep their problem secret. I can't see how that would be good, keeping it secret means he wouldn't be able to get the help he need and no one would be able to take their precautions. I'd say people should instead be supportive. That way, he can get help, and I think it would be easier to control the urges if he doesn't have to completely hide it, and those with children would know that they should either keep their children away from him or teach them how dangerous he can be.

thats different then, because you just wanna support him because he was your close friend and you dont wanna see him suffer, its not really that he is a pedophile but that you dont wanna see your friend suffer. I bet if it was some stranger you didnt know, you wouldn't give a fuck