likes and dislikes in guys....

No but seriously, what about the people who are unfortunate enough to have some physically debilitating disease that may affect their physical appearance. I would dare to say that most cases never experience love. So that's what gets me when people say their most important factor is intelligence and personality and whatnot when there are genetically unfortunate folks out there who may be the best of people, but never experience a relationship because of their ailment.

Speaking only for myself I didn't say anything about not judging on looks as well. I just tend to be more open to a guy who isn't a complete idiot and that seems to limit myself enough so I try to keep an open mind and heart in regards to looks! Lol

lol sorry missallyesterday i was not intending on saying your wrong. lol i was playing devils advocate. just saying the two sides.... to get a topic going =P i for one dont care about looks too much. yes i would love to have a skinny hott looking gf... if she is asian awesome... if she is russian awesome... or british awesome... do i need them ... no... i have my physical likes.. and race likes.. and language likes... but my main thing is inteligence and if i have to sit there and explain everything i say or anything along those likes where i have to say something once and its understood... dealt with both in different relationships... i prefer not having to repeat myself or explaining everything.....

also... though some admit it and some dont... sex plays a major part in relationships... if you are a sexually active person... and your partner isnt ... thats going to be a big roadblock in your relationship... unless you are fine with you being the inactive person are fine with your partner getting their fill somewhere else while with you.....

Heh. I'm speaking for myself strictly, again... I don't really care about people's racial likes. I tend to have a thing for foreigners (Europe, Asia...). Not sure why, but the fact that I speak Japanese pretty well might be part of it. Having said that I don't actually go chasing Japanese specifically, and for some reason I am hesitant with Koreans... I have a disconnect with that country even though I am half Korean. Whether I agree or not is unimportant and I have no place to judge people on that. But, I think looking for a certain race limits yourself. Intelligence... I actually don't mind explaining things. I just don't like certain things. Like making ignorant assumptions about a serious subject. Saying things strictly based on personal beliefs and feelings. I also dislike just complete disregard for other people's feelings which is back to my judgment or lack thereof. I have spent years of my life repeating and explaining things to people, it's not that big of a deal for me. As for sex... I am going to agree that it does play a major role. But, some situations are unique to certain couples. I say yes to sex, but if I had a relationship with someone who was asexual and had no interest in sex whatsoever, it's okay with me and I will not force it on them. That would still not make it okay to cheat on them... It's not like you simply go "Even though I knew you were asexual and went into a relationship anyway, I want to have sex so I'm going to do all the dongs. It's okay, right because you don't want to have sex." (Nobody in their right mind should ever say THAT but for example.) Then there are people that while they don't enjoy sex they want to keep their non-asexual lover happy and will do it just to please them. So assuming that that is just going to happen where someone would just go ahead and cheat isn't entirely accurate. There are many ways to work around it not involving cheating.

I'm not trying to point anyone out here either. But there a couple of people in my life that preach about liking intelligence/personality etc over looks when they're already dating magazine hot studs. So I say: Yeah, now go and try dating Shrek ffs lol.

lol ya. i agree. just i don't stand for everyone saying " your shallow" or " your too judgmental" so your not their type.... move on.... if im not someones type i don't harp about it.. think of it this way... you want to be happy... you want the person your with to be happy too.... so if they don't like your looks chances are they wont be happy with you... thus relationship is one way.... like someone said. looks can be viewed differently per person... what one person finds hot another finds ugly... what one person finds ugly another finds hot. the only person who can help your looks is yourself being negative about yourself only makes you look ugly. dealt with it in a past relationship... gf was always saying... " im ugly" " im fat" after a while it gets to the point where you sit there and say... you know what sure you are... because im tired of saying it day in and day out that you are not and you keep bringing it up ... if you have a problem about your weight go work out.... do something about it... don't harp on being overweight and then not do anything about it.... annoys the heck out of me.

and i understand what your saying about not cheating... and i too can see the not forcing them into it... that's generally why when i ask questions to get to know them i generally ask if they are active or not... and also if they want kids or like them. me being a father of one. i want more... so i have to have a partner who can reproduce... now if i ever find one that lies to me that's another big pet peeve... if you lie to me when im dating you... no matter the size of type of lie... it is a big deal. i cant trust someone who lies to me. because i will play it off like it never happened to make you fall for your own lie.

I am an amazing half-man, half-dragon and thats why all the ladies flock to me. I get so many, I gotta push them back with a broom. Or stick asshat in from of me to scare them off, whichever is closer. ;) On topic: sex is great. We need more sex in our lives, because sex makes people happy with endorphins and such scientific nonsense. But a relationship based around sex is nothing more than a friends with benefits sort of deal, and if the other person feels stronger than you do, then youre gonna end ul hurting them if you continue. To be honest, I have no idea the direction of this discussion is going.. so lets stick to relationships and sex. Its always more fun that way.