What I'm looking for

@Everyone - Love is love. Be it online or real life I think even having just one or 2 similar interests can get people going on the right track, eventually you'll end up talking more (maybe) and get to know each other nevertheless. Sometimes opposites attract each other, my first girlfriend and I had no similar interests, but enjoyed hanging around each other. She later ended up using me for sex and dumping me for someone else but i digress. My last girlfriend and I had some similar interests, I met her online (on an online game) and we were doing well, just a lot of outside influences changed that. I didn't choose to fall for either of them but I did. But it all started out with conversations. Basically in the end, all you need is communication, and develop trust for one another. Hobbies and interests aside, you can be in a relationship with someone then That's just my opinion, I'd like to word it differently but idk how I want to exactly

@xueli: I honestly have nothing against his views. Personally, I feel as though goals, personal growth, etc. are an obvious factor in a relationship, but are something that should be discussed one on one... But there's a simple psychology trick, using this thread as an example, that if a negative/sarcastic/rude comment is posted, those following are similar. That's what bothers me. @yudodat: Then let me respond with this, on an entirely unsurprised note, because I never doubted that you'd be able to have one. Congratulations. Having someone you care about and love is incredible. Especially if you can find common ground when you aren't interested in the same things. You are welcome to have your own things that you feel or necessary for your relationship. Just as people are entitled to have their own. The person who made this thread wants someone who cares about video games. I, personally, need someone who wouldn't mind cosplaying with me or at least attending cons. We all have our own personal things that we prefer... And I prefer talking about similar likes. My goals are my own personal venture, and though yes, some things need to match up such as marriage, kids, etc. Those things aren't needed in the first year of a relationship. I like it when someone can get as excited about the things I love. So all in all? People are different. Love is love. No love will be the same. No interests and goals will be the same, and neither will the relationships. And hun? I could never take offense from a pictureless, nameless person who has no idea who I am beyond a profile and a face. Just because I argue back, doesn't mean I've taken offense. I was a debate kid. I find this amusing. I may find you rude and crass, but I would never take offense. If anything, I'm sorry because I wasn't able to make a more valid debate because of time constrictions of responses.

Well, to clarify: I was only saying it's impossible for me to connect with someone that doesn't have similar interests, I'm going to school to be a private investigator, I wasn't saying I want someone to be lazy with, just someone I can talk to for more than five minutes without getting bored, love can come later.

It appears you have seen what we call a derail debate on your thread I am sorry sad part is I just started reading this thread. Anyways on the matter of you finding somebody? I am going to offer some advice instead of criticizing you on this site and yet again isolating the so called forum users from the these so called stalkers on this so called social site yeah I know stop using the word so. One thing is try to be more diverse with what you are saying dont say generic things make it sound like it is really you. Dont be afraid to list quirks and such that may seem bad to some. Also try to take initiative outside of this site there are more nerdy people then most probably realize. So by all means dont let this site be your only means in finding anybody.

Yeah... I read your opening post and found myself in disbelief at some of the responses. Like asking for a GF with similar passions is a bad thing? Yet some even throw the term NEET around... Yeah, aspirations and personality are important; but what is the point of you have not much in common to enjoy with each other? I would have simplified it to this.. I want a gf who enjoys gaming or anime.

@zfox - Think of it this way: You're stranded on an island and you need food. You have some knowledge on what's good. So would you rather: Eat the plants and fruits you have more information on, or would you rather eat a potentially poisonous plant you don't know, but it has your favorite colors on it? However, it is true that even a little info, such as what's provided already, can be enough to get things started, and even start a relationship, and you can always expand from there. BUT, the thing is, this is an "otaku" dating site, it's a given that people who join like anime or games. It's like walking into a pet store and asking if they have pet/animal related stuff.

@buji: that example is a tad flawed in the fact that food is is necessity. Romance is not. I can choose not to have a GF if I can't find someone I will enjoy my time with; you can't do that with food. But your point about the finding anime otaku on a site like this is true enough. But that doesn't necessarily mean that they are gamers either.