Beggars can't be choosers.

So after some careful deep introverted thoughts and a pint of Ben and Jerry's, I wondered why it is that people kind of hassle me for being picky. It's true. I am picky. Almost to the point of coming off snobby/rude. Thing is though, I don't see how people can say that. I'm friendly to most anyone, but when it comes to picking someone. I have a set of standards and a particular physical type I find attractive. I feel as if I just wind up being with someone who doesn't fit the criteria of what I'm looking for it's almost like just being so desperate, I'd get with someone for just the sake of being in a relationship. To me that's kind of being dishonest and having a lack of self-respect. It's just no one really captures my interest or can carry on a good conversation. I tend to get bored when this happens and won't reply. Sometimes to the point of not even sending a response back if someone messaged me. What about you? Do you think it's stuck up to act that way or am I being overly picky with my high standards?

It isnt stuck up. First off relationships dont work unless you're attracted to the person and satisfied. Second a realtionship may potentiallybe life long, if you're going to be in the company of someone for the rest of your life (big descisions) It isnt unreasonable to expect to be with someone you like.

Everyone has preferences, so I understand exactly where you're coming from. I always have the traits of an ideal boyfriend in my head, and I end up never dating a guy that has all of those traits. As long as you're not being unrealistic with what you're looking for because no one is perfect and then you'll end up being alone because no one will be able to meet those standards. So what I'm trying to say is that, it's okay to have an idea of the person you'd like to be with but sometimes, when you meet someone you'll fall in love no matter how they look as long as you feel a connection to them. You never know. You might end up with someone that is the complete opposite of what you always wanted. But yes, don't Just date anyone for the sake of being in a relationship. It is dishonest to yourself and to them.

People usually just react badly because they feel insulted you dont like them. Natural reaction. People may also feel indignated because they feel you may not be up to par with your standards.

As for guys not being able to hold conversation, blame instant gratifcation. Its built into a lot of things in this society and it teaches us a different kind of interaction and kills our attention span. So guys and girls alike dont end up learning how to listen, respond, and engage people.

It's hard for me to really good a conversation because I honestly don't know what to say, not because of an instant gratification. This is even before anything ever happens.

There's nothing wrong with having preferences. You like what you like, just don't be a dick about it. Although I do have to say that if you're in a mindset that you have to beg for it, then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with hahahaha.

Rika-chan said it best, I can't add anything else to that. It's quite sad that you just stop responding but how do you end a conversation you think has gone stale? So I guess that's okay.