Inner Monologue and Dating.

I've thought for a while now, since I now am part of a website for people who have this problem such as I, I Figured to ask. What are others opinions on their inner monologue when confronted with dating opportunities/social settings? I usually always find myself having a conversation in my head for none of it to ever take place or become outspoken words, which usually comes off as "creepy" "shy" etc... As a man who actively works out, cooks, cleans, has a car, responsible, etc... (I'm trying to shorten this a little) I've always had a hard time expressing my inner monologue to others especially the opposite gender, because (I'm a man) and the social norm for this day and age are what I like to call the (douche factor). I will explain further, the (douche Factor) is that asswhole who always ends up with the decent girls, and then always corrupts them (or makes them less decent people as a result of treating them like crap). As someone with an inner monologue I find it hard to compete against these outspoken wastes of space, yes I have a god complex or I'm just excessively jaded as a result. So what are all of your opinions, mine keeps going further and further with more detail but I shortened it? How is it for a decent guy to get any type of attention from decent females, especially with an otaku obsession and inner monologue? Sorry when I type on a computer its a bit easier for the inner monologue to manifest itself in the form of ranting. There are my questions, if I could get some insight that would be awesome.

I think the statistic is people judge on what you like so they put you in that category and think he's a nerd for liking anime when your being yourself. It's hard enough finding decent people that won't judge you as well. Just because someone is decent doesn't mean they won't judge you because everyone is different you will just have to find that woman that accepts your interests as well as hers.

Stay decent man. You'll find someone. Don't be like those other guys. They suck. I don't appreciate them. Sad to say I always find out last minute they suck. Which has kind of hardened me so I'm not as interested to put myself on the line. Don't turn into another asshat that ruins it for guys like yourself. Be the guy willing to stay by the girl's side and help her pick up the pieces. She'll be appreciative in the long run. Also, listen to namaniiamani. :)

I understand that whole inner monologue thing. I think it's a sign of a healthy mind - introverts, man. I agree with moe - stay true to yourself and don't fall so low. Just a question, but do you have a mind palace? It's a cool thing to look into, if you haven't already. I'm very much the same way. It all just 'flows' out, just as some people can talk without thinking and make sense of everything as they talk - same for the whole typing our thoughts out as they roll out and can actually take a 'form' outside of your mind. There's many 'decent' females around, depending on your standards. I can't say that getting their attention is easy - but if you really like someone, just go out and say it. Worse comes to worse, they say 'I don't like you that way, sorry' - and you move on and find someone who likes you back. Be upfront about it, as long as you get the message across and you are able to get an answer. (Also, note: If they say let me give it some thought - it might mean that they need some time to think because they haven't thought about you in 'that' way? Reasons may vary. At most, this is just speculation from a very general standpoint.) From experience, that's all I can say is the best way to go about it. Sorry if it didn't help, but cheers dude.

I don't know what your stance is on alcohol consumption, but the more intoxicated, the less the inner monologue will cloud your thoughts. A little inner monologue is good to have, but it's always better to be attentive to what the other person is saying. I stress out so much over conversation in a date I don't have the energy to have any inner monologue of my own until after it's over. My inner monologue is quite snarky. Ex: 'Nice job, Casanova. A girl flirted with you and all you could think about was that story about how you ripped your pants picking up your cat.'

If I were to describe my inner voice/monologue in one sentence I would have to say. He is adventurous, outgoing, irrational, spontaneous, genius, all around the things I have a hard time doing myself, with a devilish twist. Twisting the truth, suggestion, persuasion, and those types of things come natural to my other half. It makes finding someone a pain in the ass due to each of our preferences and standards, you can call it sort of a dual personality if you must. I figured I'd get more feedback in various types on this subject, however I guess I titled this post incorrectly and I take blame.

I thought I was weird but yes the inner monologue is always in my head, like the guy from scrubs. '